#dear mindy

I'm a writer and blogger recently navigating Tumblr. Sometimes I worry that no one will really care what I have to say, or care about my ideas. What's the best thing to focus on when I feel this way? I think I'm just looking for a little encouragement💗. I hope this makes sense!

hey sweetheart, so sorry i've been extremely inactive. finals have been draining, exhausting, and overwhelming!! i'm almost done, but i wanted to answer your question because it made me sooo freaking happy!!!

this question literally touched my heart because i've been exactly where you are!! that feeling when you pour your thoughts and creativity into your writing, hit post, and then wonder if anyone out there is actually connecting with your words? i completely understand that vulnerable feeling, bestie! 

first of all, i want to say how brave it is to create and share your writing in the first place! putting your thoughts out into the world takes so much courage, and the fact that you're doing it already shows how much passion you have. that's something to be proud of regardless of the notes or reblogs!

when those doubts creep in (and trust me, they visit all of us, even people with thousands of followers!), here are some gentle reminders and perspectives that have helped me create my blog:

1. remember why you started writing

   ✧ was it to process your own thoughts?

   ✧ to connect with others who feel the same way?

   ✧ to create something beautiful?

   ✧ to document your journey?

   returning to your original purpose can be so grounding when the external validation feels uncertain. i keep this in mind whenever i'm planning ideas, writing my posts or even when i feel unmotivated to write a bunch of words onto the tumblr word processor. this generally just helps you focus on the purpose for your blog/writing.

2. focus on quality over quantity

   ✧ one genuine connection with a reader who truly resonates with your words is worth more than hundreds of passive scrollers

   ✧ some of my favorite writers and bloggers have smaller but incredibly devoted followers

   ✧ meaningful engagement > follower count (always!!)

3. celebrate the uniqueness of your voice

   ✧ no one else has your exact perspective, experiences, or way of expressing things

   ✧ the internet doesn't need more people trying to sound like everyone else

   ✧ your specific voice is exactly what someone out there is looking for

   ✧ authenticity always shines through and attracts the right people

4. remember that growth takes time

   ✧ most "overnight successes" actually took years of consistent posting

   ✧ tumblr especially works on connections and community building

   ✧ your words might be quietly collecting in someone's bookmarks even if they haven't engaged yet

   ✧ some of my posts that got almost no notes when first published suddenly found their audience months later!

5. create for yourself first

   ✧ write what brings you joy, healing, or clarity

   ✧ if you're excited about your content, that energy will naturally attract others

   ✧ when you love what you create, external validation becomes a bonus rather than a necessity

   ✧ the posts i'm most proud of aren't always my most popular ones!

   ✧ make sure to utilize aesthetics in your post, ones you enjoy are always a bonus, and it's so fun to design your post according to whatever aesthetic/vibe

6. engage with other writers/bloggers and creators

   ✧ leave thoughtful comments on posts you love

   ✧ reblog with your own additions

   ✧ join writing challenges or community events (example: tag games)

   ✧ respond to asks and messages

   ✧ community building is a two-way street! this is my favorrrrittee part of being a girlblogger.

7. trust the timing of your journey

   ✧ some days will be quiet, others will surprise you with connection

   ✧ consistency matters more than immediate results

   ✧ your words might be exactly what someone needs to read tomorrow, or next month, or next year

i also want to remind you that even the most popular writers and bloggers have moments of doubt! it's part of the creative process to sometimes wonder if what you're making matters. but just know your perspective is inherently valuable. your experiences are worth documenting. your creative expression deserves space in this world.

when i first started my blog, i would sometimes post things that got almost no interaction. but then i'd get a single message from someone saying "this was exactly what i needed to read today" and it would remind me why i started in the first place.

keep nurturing your writer's heart, keep showing up for your creativity, and keep sharing your unique voice with the world. the right readers will find you, i promise. and in the meantime, take pride in the courage it takes to create and share in the first place!

sending you all the creative inspiration and confidence vibes!! hope this helps <3

xoxo, mindy 🤍

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Well. To be honest with you? I call people shits all the time. It's usually in a good way. If you're giving her all the things she needs to be safe and keep her healthy, she needs to get her shit together and stop being an ass about the situation. I don't know how to deal with a teenager from an adults point of view. Personally, I'd just slap the kid. Tell her to grow up or get out.

Dear Janie,

Why you all bark and no bite?

Dear Totally not stalking you.

What.

It's also frowned upon to beat someone up.

Don't take on a whole gang by yourself. You'll end up as pulp.

Just go to the cops. Your safety is more important than revenge.

- Mindy

Dear Interned and In Love,

I thought workplace relationships were usually frowned upon? But that said, have you ever seen a porno where that situation doesn't work out? 

I say tell her. Sometimes it's the people who seem the straightest that are hiding so deep in the closet. The worst that can happen is if she doesn't feel the same. At least then you'll know. But, you'll never get what you won't if you don't attempt to get it.

First you're going to need a shit load of garlic.

Like, enough garlic to cover yourself.

Soak yourself in garlic until you can't handle the smell of yourself.

Then what you're going to need to do is dig a hole, lay in it, bury yourself and don't come out.

Dear Guardian in need of guidance,

Marcus, is this you?

I'm going to start with, hopefully she has enough respect for herself to not do that. Teenage girls are hard enough to put up with without adding that to the mix. You could always put a lock on your bedroom door - At least if she smashes through the door it'll wake you up. Sleep with a gun? Straitjackets are also pretty cheap. If she lets you, that is.

Oh God, I hope I'm not digging my own grave here.

You should also probably get her some help because that sort of thing isn't okay. Especially the 'murderous' part. If you feel unsafe, call the cops (unless you are Marcus then you should have this under control) they'll sort her out.