Just a thought
In season 4, rory never faces her emotions about jess and never wallows
Then, the episode after he tells her he loves her she turns to Dean for comfort about her abundant schoolwork and the episode after jess shows up at Yale she sleeps with dean. In that same episode she has a conversation with lane about jess and how she feels safe with dean as opposed to always being unsure wether jess will stay around or not
since Rory never faces her emotions, she never fully moves past them, instead, she looks for the things jess didn’t give her, safety and security, albeit in the worst way possible







