When you place your value on your looks, secs, and the physical in relationships you’re placing your value in the gutter. Sound harsh, and extreme? Yes, because it’s really that serious. You’ve been leading with your body, and that’s been your downfall.Â
Often women say, I can’t believe he is with her. And while her might not look aesthetically pleasing to you, her value shines through her being. She is more than her body, then what she can physically offer him. She connects with his mind, body and soul. A woman who knows who she is is attractive as hell to a man, because she's different from the crowd. She's not leading with her looks. Men see this, they know she knows her true value and that’s how she’s secured the ring, and you’re still dealing with fuckboys only interested in your body. And while you might not be sleeping around, the way you present yourself online, to the world even in your own understanding, your looks have become your leading value.
You set the standard, men follow. If you’re keeping him in his animal instincts, his mind below his belt, sure he’ll be interested but connecting with a mans mind, heart, and soul is how you find something more deeper than causal sex and empty situationships. Â
When you lead with your body, you become the low hanging fruit.
Society has taught you to place your value on the exterior on how snatched your waist is, on how plump your lips are, on how seductive you can be. Sure these things come into play but they are not centre stage because YOU, who you are is your true value. The value that's rarely celebrated or honoured is the value that sets you apart from every single person on this earth. Its your being.Â
~Your being is you. Who you are at your core, the way you see the world, your unique perspective, the light in your soul, who you are at your very essence.Â
This is your true value. It’s heartbreaking to think you’ve believed you are not good enough at your core and that your body, and sex is the driving factor for getting a man, but I’m here to tell you sweetie you don’t need to lead with your body anymore and the men only interested in your body are not men worth your time. You are so much more than your looks, your hair, your body, those edited photos you post online. Because what’s in your heart, your true being is where your value is held. You without the mask, this is your true value. Having the confidence to show up and quit performing and peacocking for a man is how you truly win and enjoy life at ease when it comes to dating.Â
