#daddy's rules

I have a long list of rules for me. Every one of them has come from a mistake I made or someone I hurt. I do my very best not to break them because I've seen what my carelessness has done to people. Young Doms, listen up. Young subs, take notes because I still consider myself the bare minimum. Here are my top ten:

"Yes" means nothing unless "no" is a safe and easy option.

Your authority is secured by their trust. If you cannot preserve their trust, you do not deserve your authority.

Be unapologetically honest and kind. You could die at any moment, so don't let the important things go unsaid.

Never put your wants above their needs. You can go without a want but they cannot go without a need.

Their safety comes first. You have been given the lion's share of the agency, which gives you the lion's share of the responsibilities.

Never act out of anger. It undermines your authority, your sub's trust and everyone's safety.

Praise in public, scold in private. A sub's successes should be celebrated. Their failures should be kept between you and them.

Punishment is a correction, not retribution. If a punishment is not constructive, it is worthless.

Don't judge. If your sub comes to you with a problem or a mistake, don't make them feel lesser for it. If you make it clear that you aren't safe to confide in, they won't come to you for help.

Be accountable to your sub. Admit when you're wrong and strive to be better. They deserve a better Dom and you deserve a better you.

I need this.

1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.

2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.

3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.

4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.

5. Request the late check-out.

6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.

7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.

8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.

9. Play with passion or don’t play at all…

10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.

11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.

12. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.

13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.

14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.

15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.

16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.

17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.

18. Never turn down a breath mint.

19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.

20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.

21. Thank a veteran. Then make it up to him.

22. Eat lunch with the new kid.

23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.

24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.

25. Manners maketh the man.

26. Give credit. Take the blame.

27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.

28. Write down your dreams.

29. Take time to snuggle your pets, they love you so much and are always happy to see you.

30. Be confident and humble at the same time.

31. If ever in doubt, remember whose son you are and REFUSE to just be ordinary!

32. In all things lead by example not explanation.

33. Dress how you want to be addressed

I have a list of rules to keep subs safe. These are somewhat inspired by my rules for me. These are to help you understand what I expect from my subs and what I think is important.

You are a whole person. You do not need to be completed. You have your own life and while I'm glad you're choosing to live it with me, you are allowed and encouraged to have parts that are just yours.

You are a Good Girl. Not because I said so but because you choose to be. I cannot take that from you. It is yours and only yours.

The door is always open. You can leave whenever you want and, more importantly, you can come back whenever you want. My love is not a prison and your peace is not a sin.

You can give up every power but this: You get the final say. I can do anything you'll let me do, but you decide if I'm your Dom, if I'm worth trusting and obeying. You get to revoke my authority, to say no, to stop everything. You don't need an excuse. You don't have to have an explanation ready. If you say stop, we stop.

Tell me what you want. Sometimes, that thing you want is a need that isn't being met. Tell me. I need to know and I want to help.

Be compassionate, kind and understanding, especially with yourself. You will make mistakes. You will have bad days, failures and setbacks. Take a breath, give yourself the benefit of the doubt, reflect and do better next time. Allow others to do the same.

Walk your own path. You cannot be anyone but you. Don't compare yourself to others or let jealousy or despair creep in. You are only competing with yourself and your goal is to be a little better each day.

Don't take criticism from anyone you wouldn't go to for advice. It is important for us to hold each other accountable because it helps us grow closer together rather than apart. But not everyone is worthy of your consideration. Cling to those who love and support you, but cleave from those who do not.

No one can be your everything, not even me. Nurture the relationships that nourish you. Have conversations, hobbies, times and places to laugh and cry and let yourself be every facet of you. Strong roots make for strong trees and strong forests. When you find your place, don't be afraid to make it yours.

Love yourself. This is the hardest one, so make sure you practice. It the process of taking care of yourself, advocating for yourself and accepting that you are worthy of a good and happy life. When the good times come, accept them. When the bad times come, hold my hand and know they will pass. This is the great work of all my Good Girls.

Got to some art and craft there, all inspiration from pinterest and been so calm.