#courageandjoy

Goals with Soul

November brings about conversations around gratitude, and “giving thanks.” I am rigorous with practicing gratitude every.single.day, if not every hour, depending on where my mind is taking me that day. As it’s said, “gratitude is an attitude.” Whenever I need an attitude adjustment, I shift my perspective to showing appreciation for even having access to clean water (844 million people in the world still don’t) rather than focus on what I feel I’m missing, and that shift has the power to change everything.

Women I work with often come to me with a sense of lack. It could be they are comparing themselves to:

A neighboring or book study colleague

Random people on the internet who appear to have it all together

A version of themselves they thought they'd be by this point in their life (bigger house, more money, more vacations, less time at work, better body, etc.).

Many of us have our relationship to ambition and goal setting inside out. This leads to a strong sense of lack, and gratitude can feel defeating.

We’re chasing external stuff we want to do, have, and experience. And we think that when we get there, we’ll feel amazing, and grateful we HAVE what we thought we WANTED. And yes, sometimes we do. But too often, we don’t. We’re in a vicious circle of striving for satisfaction. And even if we reach a goal, we’re onto the next thing that we think will help us feel a certain way.

I want to show you how to flip this switch.

Everything we do is driven by the desire to feel a certain way. Everything. You’re not chasing the goal itself, you’re chasing the feelings that you hope attaining that goal will give you.

Create your life with pure and powerful intention. Everything we do are our choices. Anger is a choice and so is abundance. 

We can make choices that help us feel grounded and empowered. 

You can design a life what embodies these empowered choices.

That’s why I’m inviting you to join me in accessing your inner courage, and discovering how you want to feel. You are here to design a life that feels good. Sign up for your FREE session with me to dig in and discover.

Often leaders don’t realize their trauma is leading their business.

Countless times I’ve seen leaders make choices without processing their ideas, vision, concepts, or choices, by a trained coach or trusted advisor. They base their decisions off their “instincts” and programmed belief systems.

    The problem?

They don’t realize their trauma is running them and dictating their decisions, and now their business has become a manifestation of their trauma.

    The result?

Their business becomes yet another point of pain and unhappiness because they’ve kept alive their hurts (often unknowingly), and the even bigger issue? The team members that work alongside them are now impacted by the physically manifested trauma and pain of their boss (without actual realization of this).

And, at an even deeper level, the team members that exist within this microcosm of trauma are likely re-creating their own traumas, attracted to his leader for whatever pain they provide to fulfill their unresolved issue.

This all leads to a sick and toxic business, and leaders attracting and supporting team members that will never take them to their next level, because unconsciously they are re-creating what they’ve always known, and pushing away anyone or anything that will break them out of their familiar cycle.

Does your business hurt? Does it feel too familiar? Did it feel really exciting at first and now it feels like everything else in your life has felt?

You say to yourself “here I am again,” or “how did I get HERE, again?”

Do you find yourself relating to certain team members as if they were a sister, brother, parent, cousin, ex-boyfriend or girlfriend or even your current partner?  

Do you often feel confronted or angry or annoyed when team members bring issues to you? Do you roll your eyes?

Does this kind of talk seem trivial and not business-related or too big to take on?

Business is not supposed to feel so hard and up-hill.