AIO - should we be covering all costs
My SOs family relies on us to host all events as we have the space to host. This always means we cover the costs for 10-15 people because my SO won’t ask them to help. AIO that grown ups should be pitching it? Paper plates, utensils and chips doesn’t seem fair when we are cover the entire meal.
When I have friends or my family over we all pitch in and split the costs. Is this not the norm? My SO’s solution is to not invite them over instead of asking for money or contributing a dish to feed 10-15 people.
Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (100% confidence)
Top comment: “NOR, that many people is really expensive. Could you start doing it potluck?”
Notable comment: “Your SO needs to grow a pair (ovaries or testicles, take your pick). Rather than having a really simple conversation with their family, they are willing to cancel every single dinner you all have together? That's just going to cause more drama than asking for contributions.
In my family, everyone contributes something. That's just how it works. You're NOR but you need to tell your spouse to put their foot down and quit avoiding a tiny bit of discomfort, and in the process, creating a huge fight”
Do you agree with Reddit’s consensus?
Voting ended onJul 11
Originally shared by Then-Needleworker487 on r/AmIOverreacting on July 3rd, 2026 at 2:45 AM UTC. Credit to u/Stock-Cell1556 and u/Final-Yesterday-4799 for the quoted comments.