AIO: My husband wants to replace our gas cooktop, I told him it would affect our relationship.
AITO!? We bought a house in the summer, and the whole reason I loved this place was the kitchen. I love to cook, and the gas cooktop was the number one thing I loved. I came from slumming it on ancient electric stoves in our various rentals. This thing has changed the way I view one of my very favourite hobbies. My husband and kids have been reaping the rewards too! Since my food has been elevated since I can actually control the temperature of my pots, pans, wok and the cast iron griddle!!
Now here is where my husband has concerns. When we first got the place we had a gas leak, whoever installed it initially didn’t do a great job. We had the gas company and plumbers here, they fixed the problem. But now my husband is absolutly paranoid that whenever he opens the drawer under the cooktop he’s convinced he smells gas. The drawer literally smells like a drawer should smell, like plastic (our cabinets are new and have a plastic surface) and the glass mixing bowls that reside in the drawer.
I can’t convince him otherwise and short from calling the gas company every time he opens the drawer he wants to replace this “death trap”. I told him that I know how to use a gas stove since Iv worked in kitchens and know that while in use, ventilation is key. I run the new and powerful hood fan which is ventilated outside everytime I use the cooktop, and for about 5-10 minutes after I turn the burner off. The cooktop has saftey features such as automatic relighting which we got to see in action when a pot over-boiled and extinguished the flame, it reignited right away; has overheating protection, and lights on the knobs to show when the gas is flowing. You cannot turn on the gas without the igniter clicking until the gas ignites.
Still……. He thinks our house will fill with gas and explode.
We have been together for a long time, 17 years. And I always meet him half way with his paranoia about things and Iv never put my foot down as much as I am now. I even told him I would get rid of my plants if I didn’t get the small gnat issue in control (another issue but that one is on going)
I told him if he replaced the cooktop it would affect our relationship. The gas company has come and deemed the stove safe and no leaks present. We fixed the issues that were causing the leak and the stove is save to use. I am so against letting him have his way in this because his feelings are based on emotions and paranoia instead of fact (which are his words not mine in different situations. He’s a very logical person normally so I’m so caught out of left field on this issue)
Am I overreacting by telling him that if he gets rid of the stove I love, so that I could play into his paranoia? So he can feel more comfortable in our new home? I want him to feel comfortable, but at the same time his paranoia has gone too far this time with me.
What does every one think?
Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (67% confidence)
Top comment: “NOR. Your husband is overreacting. The ones who think you are overreacting just don’t know/appreciate a gas stove. And your hubby does need therapy. Gas appliances aren’t more dangerous than electric if installed properly”
Notable explanation: “Nor. Through a little stalking I see you’re in Canada. Canada requires the odorant in natural gas to be detectable around 1% gas in air. Natural gas cannot combust until it is at 5% gas in air. If your stove ever leaks you will smell it at a level 5 times less it needs to combust. If your stove isn’t leaking now, it will never just all of the sudden start ripping gas to the point of danger, it would be a very small basically undetectable leak and by the time you smell it and report it, it will be well under the dangerous level. The vast vast vast majority of gas explosions are beyond your control and typically come from environmental causes, excavation damage and improper installation, outside of your home and are incredibly rare.”
Originally shared by FreyjaSama on r/AmIOverreacting on December 29th, 2025 at 6:41 PM UTC. Credit to u/Longjumping-Joke3489 and u/Significant_Gas_3868 for the quoted comments.