#comparing yourself

There is no single trigger for Kiki’s crisis of confidence. She regrets the way she must dress. She regrets not having more money. She finds the town has rules that don’t make allowances for witches. She sees other people her age being happy and cheerful, while she sits and watches through windows. She may wonder if she left home too soon and should’ve prepared better first. Maybe she also wonders if she’s too old-fashioned to have friends her age, instead of only adults.

She ends up wet and bedraggled face-to-face with a well-to-do birthday girl in her party dress, who treats Kiki like an unimportant laborer—what you can expect as a deliveryperson. Then she gets upset that Tombo is friends with this girl.

Do yourself this one big favor and just unfollow (and block if you need to) all of the people who make you upset, bring back bad memories, all of the people you find yourself negatively comparing yourself to (“she’s so pretty, I’ll never look like her.” “I wish I had that body. I need to keep following her for motivation to lose weight” “why can’t my face/ body look like that?”) and anybody who posts things that aren’t either inspiring you, making you happy, uplifting you or reminding you to continue healing and growing in the right direction. You get to choose who and what you interact with on social media, as well as who interacts with you. So choose to follow and interact with accounts and people who inspire you, who lift you up and bring you joy and peace, those who teach you how to healthily cope and help you follow your dreams and reach your goals.

I’ve seen a lot of people talk about mental health these days, so I want to add something as well.

We’ve all had those moments, “they look better than me”, “they’re better at ___ than me”, “I wish I could be as good as them”, “why am I not like them”... Everyone always tells you not to compare yourself to others, but I haven’t seen many people explain...why? So here’s my take on this.

That person was born likely far away from you and is older/younger. By just being born at a different place and different time they already have a different start to life. They have different skills that they’re born with or gain. They’ll go to a different school and have many friends and people who shape them into a person they’ll soon become. They’ll get a job that will transform them even further and so on.

You can’t compare yourself to others because you have completely different experiences. Even if you’re born in the same place at the same time you will not be the same! You are two different beings! You perceive the world differently. Imagine if you were born just one year earlier or later. Imagine how different you would act, your friend group would change completely and you’d look at life differently.

2. X -doesn't- know, but they have an innate ability to improvise and figure it out on the spot. That's just something that not everyone can do, in the same way not everyone has green eyes.

3. X -doesn't- know, and -doesn't- have the aforementioned innate ability. They just took a lucky guess and you happened to be there for it

4: X actually isn't doing the right thing at all, but they're charismatic/confident/ignorant enough that they LOOK LIKE and THINK they are

Tying into all of the above, you haven't seen the countless times X has messed up - and believe me, they have. It happens to everyone.

Each of us is as special and impossible to replicated as anyone else on this planet exactly because of the way we are and live.

Everyone of us has a unique way to approach and live life, to experience it, feel it. We all even have different sensibilities. Not to mention the different upbringings, cultures, traditions, experiences we go through. So to compare our life, path, and speed at which we move on it, is simply impossible.

We all have our mission here, our growth to do, and each one of us grows in different ways, and gives a different level of importance to different fields of life. There’s no point in saying that by a certain age we all should have reached a specific goal in our career or romantic lifee.g.... it is only useful to bring people down, while we should only care about ourselves, focus on our own path and on the way to follow it in the best way possible.

There’s no way we can all reach the same goal by the same time, as it’s impossible to blend all colors together and still be able to use them separately.