Guys I think it's ok to come out to my mom in a way. Not the way I expected, but maybe? She already knows I don't like girly things, she never raised me to be particularly feminine, but she doesn't like body modifications(that includes binders). She also says that people between 16-18 should be able to choose their own name, and I've said how I don't exactly like mine. Also pronouns are a no-no, but I could maybe introduce the idea slowly?
What I think I'll do is come out as androgynous instead of genderfluid or nonbinary, as it's less of a strict label and could be taken better by her. I can probably ask her to use a different name, MAYBE pronouns(unlikely), start dressing differently and all that. I've mentioned dressing grunge before but never followed through lol. So... androgynous? I think that's the best way for her to understand, and we can build up from there.
We're also watching a show where I looked up the queer characters and there's a nonbinary character (Kai/ E.R Fightmaster) so I'll wait for them to be introduced to test the waters a bit. (They come in at s.18... we're on s.6... might be a while...)
Basic information I need to memorize for the coming out:
New name(Lee/other names?)
Androgynous gender(not feminine or masculine)
How i want to present(outfit/style change)
Next steps(later coming outs, pronoun acceptance, etc)
Lowkey might make a presentation to make it easier.
Also she asked if I wanted to go to the pride event at the garden but I chickened out (cuz it's scary, she's not one to do that... it's weird)
And I do think she suspects atp, but it's still scary af. I think she's trying to make it easier and try to help me come out but it's kinda making it worse lol.
Anywho that's long and unnecessary goodnight/goodmorning/goodday fellows
