#closeting

Hi, anon!

The P-word is banned on this blog btw because 1/3 of you don’t know the difference between privacy and closeting, and 1/3 is projecting their own wants for privacy on attention loving and attention seeking celebrities, and 1/3 of you refuse to listen to what the celebrity has actually said in terms of balancing privacy/public life.

You fall in the last category btw. Go read the Deadline interview again. Here is me spelling it out if you need help understanding what they're actually saying.

C isn't keeping his private life private. H is keeping C's private life private for him, since C's private life is H. The overexposure, or the trying to force it down our throat, is a desperate attempt from H to hide his sexuality/his real relationship with C.

Good morning, anon! ☀️

Gooood question! What is he thinking?

No, his team is not keeping him in jail with no say. He's choosing this, for some reason or other. He hasn't said he wants privacy, but he has said she doesn’t want to be percieved.

My best bets are:

He's going to be all over Connor in less than a month, he wants zero restrictions on his behaviour and in terms of being seen or spotted with Connor, and neither of them can or want to pretend they're not head over heels for each other. So these staged "loved up" pap pics are a preemtive measure to gaslight us into thinking there is nothing between him and Connor come but a strong friendship come august.

He's gearing up to announce he's been cast in an action franchise movie role, a role/movie with a largely straight, male, slightly homophobic audience. So he needs to push the straight/into women image in order to be convincing in this role (or the studio demands it for him to get the role).

He's taking bad advice from his PR/management team/s, who still think that in this day and age, it's a good idea to counter queer roles/queerness with a straight/into women image to appease a straight mainstream audience, despite his main audience, and the people who made him famous and who make up his fanbase/fandom being queer/queer supportive.

Whatever the reason for this staged stunt show, it was a bad idea. It's too obviously staged, it's bordering desperate for attention, and it's too familiar for his queer fandom (comprising of fans from other queer fandoms) not to recognise this for what it is - an attempt to sell a fake relationship to hide a sexuality/real relationship. Unless he wanted to tell us in no uncertain terms that he's gay, this was a massive mistake. He could have found other ways to tell us he's gay, ways that is less embarrassing for him and for us fans.

Would you care to share how it makes sense?

Because, frankly, it makes absolutely no sense to me. To accept the idea that they are “baiting” larries, you’d have to

1. Accept that they’re not a couple.

2. Accept that there is an enormous amount of money to be made by keeping larries active in their respective fandoms.

3. Accept that Harry and Louis are the type of people who have no problem gaslighting their queer fans.

4. Accept that they have coordinated for years to write dozens of songs that reference each other and tell the same stories from each other’s points of view.

5. Accept that they have coordinated for years to wear clothing that references each other, use social media in ways that references each other, use their album promo and art work in ways that references each other, etc.

None of that makes any sense. If they were never in a relationship, none of this would be needed. If they had been in a relationship and it ended, none of this would be needed.

Since 2015 there have been larries who were convinced they’d broken up. They either just left the fandom altogether, or they became solo fans.

Harry doesn’t need to hang on to larries to be successful. An argument could be made that Louis might need the numbers, but he would need Harry to play this stupid game with him if he was actually trying to “larrie bait.” And why would H put himself through that? Why would Louis do something so convoluted?

Antis grasp at straws to keep from admitting what is right in front of their faces: the only baiting that’s being done is straight baiting. The only people HSHQ and LTHQ (and 1DHQ before them) were desperate to hang on to were those people who couldn’t handle the idea of Harry and Louis being queer and being a couple.

Hi, anon!

Yes, Hudson could be bi/pan and dating a woman while being into men.

However, when you're in a committed relationship, no matter the sex/gender, you won't show or act on attraction to others. You have no interest in it, and it's about respecting and honouring the relationship you're in and your partner. You also should have no problem with showing care, love and romantic and sexual attraction towards your partner, that are more genuine and authentic than what you show towards others.

When you feel more protective and private about a relationship with your co-star that should be platonic (but you call each other soulmates) than your long term relationship with someone uncomfortable with the spotlight, there is something not right here.

Instead, people analyze everything he does, try to find hidden messages, and are unkind to him and the people around him. Even if something eventually came out that genuinely proved he was in a relationship with a man, so what? If that effectively forced him out of the closet, it would be wrong. Even playing a gay character can affect an actor's career opportunities because they may end up being typecast.

I'm sure everyone understands that being gay in Hollywood can still be very difficult. On top of that, being a man of color can bring additional challenges. None of that is a walk in the park. So why make it even harder for him?

Hi, anon!

Hudson got famous due to starring as a lead gay character on a queer show, and having almost never seen levels of chemistry with his male co-star. Among a lot of fakery in the business, Hudson's portrayal of Shane was deemed genuine, authentic and moving, as is his on and off-screen chemistry with Ilya/Connor.

Hudson has been vocally supportive of the queer community, agrees that queer roles should be played by queer people and has done several queer short movies where he plays queer. Very naked and very enthusiastically. He doesn’t shy away from queer innuendos or making gay jokes. He's into queer art and artists, and he is showering his co-star with queer suggesting praise and love.

Hudson got famous due to being a queer role model for an audience of queer people or queer supporting people. He's hinted he's queer, and his affection towards Connor is far beyond fan service. It's genuine and authentic.

Hudson is open about his affections, it's written all over his face. He has never tried to hide or surpress his own queerness, he just hasn't said the words out loud.

Some of his queer audience, who made him famous, are disappointed he's not being open about his sexuality, so that he can be a real role model and be real representation for the queer community. As long as he isn't open about it, he's appropriating a historically oppressed community, aesthetic and culture, while getting straight privilege and not giving any representation. Some take issue with that. The more he pushes his relationship with his gf to the front, the more he provokes and pisses off the queer community who made him famous.

Others take issue with his very public display of heterosexuality. Even if he's gay/queer, doesn’t necessarily warrant a beard or a very public relationship. He can be queer without trying to convice people this hard that he's straight or into women. He can also date Connor without trying this hard to prove he's in a relationship with K.

Others, like me, take issue with the lies, manipulation, gaslighting and hypocrisy. We were drawn to Hudson due to his ability to show vulnerabilites, open affection towards men, his authenticity and genuine behaviour, his bluntness and his multitudes. Now that he's trying to portray himself as someone he's not, a one-dimentional fake persona, and it's easy to tell, and he's doing it in order to be more palatable for a straight audience or to hide or soften his edges to appease Hollywood and get roles, and starting to attack fans and others who see through the lies, that's not something a lot of fans will easily tolerate.

You have to remember that those who see the truth, those who champion queer relationships and queer stories, and those who reject fake relationships and manipulation, and are vocal about it, are being targets for homophobia, death threats, fan policing and deemed conspiracy theorists. Not only from fans, but from Hudson himself.

Hudson is now in a postition where he's showing us two extreme versions of himself, one who is very unapologetically queer and no holds barred affectionate towards Connor, and one who is miserably pushing a relationship with a woman he's not even got 1/10th of the chemistry he has with Connor.

So no, it's not as simple as he's queer, he's closeted and hiding and he should be allowed to hide and still do queer roles while killing the queer and in a relationship with Connor rumours with lies, manipulation and attacks. People in general want to make the right people famous, give their power to the right people and put people in positions of power who can make a difference, who can represent them and who they can trust to act in their interest. Right now Hudson is failing at a lot of this, so people are weary.

I also don't think he's faking a relationship with K to hide his sexuality. If he was afraid people would clock his queerness, he would prentend to be straight, through his mannerisms, language and topics of conversation. He's not, quite the opposite. So it must be to hide his relationship with Connor. The way they've handled everything from the start, with the failed PR relationships between C and FA and H having to pull a bigger weight by bringing K more to the forefront than planned (Hudson never should have said she doesn’t like to be percieved and the DM doxxing thing is hilarious in hindsight).

I also think a reason is, that if he hangs out with the support act he has to keep up the stunt narrative during that time. I mean, they have to think he dates Zara, so if she’s at the venue but don’t join him, then they’ll start to ask questions. (They probably already is since he chooses gay support acts, who probably sees through his closet)

hello lovely,

that is definitely a valid thought!

in reference to this.