Am I overreacting to my child’s grandma saying I can’t be in her house unless my child is with me?
Thursday is one of the cats names
So, my child’s grandma has been going on vacations all summer. When she does she asks me to feed her cats. I’ve been doing this for months. She’s trusted me to use her washer and dryer when ours broke and did laundry there, I’ve always been allowed there with no problem.
Little bit of a background- we use to live together and I was never made to feel untrustworthy or weird. Which is part of why this kind of confuses me. I got pregnant with her son when I was a 17 (haven’t been together since child was 1) and I’ve always viewed her as a nosey mom. She came into my home unannounced, and has went through my things, she came in to organize MY drawers, she’s even went through my sex toys and asked my childs aunt to come and look and showed her them. She’s also read my little journal I keep under my bed. When I left her son I had moved in with her for 6 months I was told by her husband and daughter that when I lived with them she’d always come into my room and look through stuff. So no I personally would not trust HER in my home. Therefore, would not ask her any favors.
The only thing I can think of that changed was that yesterday she had walked in my house uninvited looking for a pool she thinks she gave us last year for the kids. I did come off annoyed because I told her multiple times that we don’t have it. I was In the bathroom half naked doing my makeup. Maybe I embarrassed her or made her feel bad? I feel like she knows I don’t trust her and wanted to make things “even” by basically implying that she doesn’t trust me.
At night time when I feed the cats I usually leave my kids with their dad (my youngest bio dad but has raised my oldest most of his life) I just don’t care to get them dressed and loaded into the car when I can just go do it myself.
Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (100% confidence)
Top comment: “NOR. She can find someone else to take care of her pets from now on. I would never step foot in her home again for any reason.”
Notable explanation: “not overreacting AT ALL! this is coming from someone who’s MIL is VERY invasive. well she use to be… it’s a lot better now. everything you said was right though, 110%! you weren’t disrespectful or nasty in your responses. which is saying a lot bc i would’ve flown off the handle. 🤷🏼♀️ my MIL went behind mine & my fiancés back to our old landlord & convinced him to let her, her husband, & adult aged daughter into our home without us being there & without us knowing. they basically raided our house like they were SWAT. she’s taken our phones, THAT WE PAY FOR, went through EVERY.THING. in our phones. when we lived with her… she walked in on us FOUR TIMES. like i said, it seems like that was a completely different life from how everything is now. tbh OP, i wouldn’t do the favor for her anymore. it’s not just about her wanting you to bring your child with you. it’s about the fact that, yall lived together, yall have known each other for YEARS. now all of a sudden, “bring your child with you bc he knows the house best” ?!!? it’s about her being a petty childish woman just trying to make you feel like your 👌🏼 that small.
screw her! say thanks, but no thanks petty betty. find someone else ✌🏼”
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Originally shared by Formal-Rock-7609 on r/AmIOverreacting on July 15th, 2026 at 4:04 PM UTC. Credit to u/TaxiLady69 and u/First-Math-6153 for the quoted comments.
