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Lies and Confusion

My sister came in one day with a weird look on her face, so I asked her what was up. She looked at me and said, “Um. He was engaged.”

I was like, “What? What are you talking about?”

So she told me - one of her close friends (let’s call her Ahava) had been friends with Y.M.’s family for years. Ahava and my sister were having a conversation about the event that they went to where my sister met Y.M.’s mother and aunt (the event that got this whole ball rolling in the first place), and Ahava said, “Wait, was that while he was still engaged?”

And my sister made one of these faces: (O.o)

Ahava said, “What's wrong?" My sister replied, "He was engaged?" And Ahava said, "I totally told you about that.” But my sister did not recall that bit of information. At all. So Ahava asked, “Wait, he didn’t tell you about it?” Apparently he had skipped that piece of information as well.

So my sister called Y.M. and asked him about the previous engagement to which he replied something along the lines of, “She was too needy and controlling, she was bad at decision making, it wasn’t a good shidduch, everyone told me she wasn't right for me but I wouldn't listen and I was relieved when it was over.” I don’t think my sister was at ease with his response, but she sort of dropped the subject.

But still. Engaged to two people within a year of each other is kind of strange. And to avoid that topic in conversation with your betrothed just seems so wrong.