#cg tips

rule ideas for your little ♡༅

paw print: when i had my first cg they were new to it & didn't really know wut rules to make, so if anyone else needs ideas as well, here you go!༅ 🐾

(nsfw dni)

♡ bedtime ──୨ৎ── give them a bedtime to follow!༅

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♡ sweet restrictions ──୨ৎ── no sweets before bed or before dinner, and ask before you have sweets!༅

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♡ screen time ──୨ৎ── give them a limited amount of time they can be on devices when little!༅

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♡ no lying ──୨ৎ── it's always better to communicate openly rather than hide your feelings or lie, and it helps keep trust strong!༅

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♡ kindness ──୨ৎ── be kind with your actions and words, not just to others but to yourself too!༅

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♡ no bad/curse words ──୨ৎ── use silly and kind words, not bad ones when little!༅

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♡ brush teeth ──୨ৎ── if its really a struggle try to at least once a day!༅

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♡ try to eat enough each day! ──୨ৎ── food gives you the energy you need to get through the day, and you deserve to have that energy!༅

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♡ stay hydrated ──୨ৎ── also gives you that much needed energy!༅

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♡ manners ──୨ৎ── use manners like saying "thank you" & "please"!༅

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♡ no yelling ──୨ৎ── inside voices!༅

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♡ if something seems risky, ask first ──୨ৎ── like climbing a counter for a snack, using scissors, etc! safety first!༅

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♡ gentle hands & legs ──୨ৎ── nooo hitting or throwing things and noo kicking or stomping!༅

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♡ take meds ──୨ৎ── if you have to, make sure you do!༅

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♡ no interrupting ──୨ৎ── if someone else is speaking, let them finish!༅

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♡ assign chores ──୨ৎ── such as making their bed, picking up toys etc!༅

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♡ ask for help if you need it ──୨ৎ── if something feels too big, confusing, or hard, it's okay to ask for help!༅

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♡ try your best ──୨ৎ── as long as you try your best anything you do is enough!༅

◜ 🎧𓂃 Helping regressors with: Social Anxiety ‧ ⛈️◞

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Regression comes in many different forms, for many different reasons, including anxiety for some. As a CG, it is important to be able to help your regressors during this time, SO, here are some tips on how to help a little with Social Anxiety

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⧼ 1 ⧽ Make sure to plan ahead!

Letting your regressor know where you’re going, what day, and what time can give them enough time to mentally get ready for the day. Some littles need more time and some less so make sure to discuss it with them!

⧼ 2 ⧽ Remove them from the stimulant!

Sometimes, taking a break from big social locations can help your regressor calm down quickly and assess their needs before moving forward. Safe spaces for this can include a family bathroom (ones that are one room only) a far off booth in a food court, sometimes even in small corridors, hallways, and even outside

⧼ 3 ⧽ Learn grounding techniques!

Going out can be stressful and can cause big emotions like anxiety or panic at stacks. Learn east/simple grounding techniques like the countdown method, blowing bubbles, or even non-harmful stimming !

⧼ 4 ⧽ Show them affection!

This may vary per regressor, but actively reminding them that they’re loved, holding/squeezing their hand, giving them frequent hugs or praise can help a regressor remember that they can get though this scary time ! DO NOT RE-WRITE OR POST AS OWN

⧼ 5 ⧽ Comfort items!

Having a regression bag is incredibly helpful to give your little a way to carry comfort items [check this post for bag ideas]. If they’re not big on affection during times of high stress, offer a comfort item (like a paci or toy) or even offering a short distraction like snacks might be helpful !

⧼ 6 ⧽ Communicate!

Sometimes a “Don’t worry” or a “You’re okay” isn’t enough to sooth an anxious little. Instead, acknowledge and validate their feelings and offer ways to help! Try out phrases such as “I know you’re feeling [blank] but I’m not gonna let anything happen to you” or “I can tell you’re getting [blank emotion/feeling], would you like to try this?[this being anything you believe can help your regressor]” !

⧼ 7 ⧽ Avoidance!

Whist taking a break from an extreme stressor is good, always remember to premise going back into the space with kind words and affirmations! Avoiding triggers/stressors reinforces that the issue is something to fear, and not to conquer. It is not always possible or even healthy to avoid triggers 24/7

⧼ 8 ⧽ Notes!

Everyone is different in how they show stress and what their needs will be, make sure to communicate with your young one to find solutions that will help them and recognize when they might become anxious in a space. This won’t always be easy, but it is necessary Always use kind words with your regressor. Your patience will always be appreciated by your little especially when they know their thoughts are getting the best of them.

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Chances are you know someone that’s an age regressor/pet regressor or an age/pet dreamer. And you wanna help them! Or you saw some posts about it and thought that sounds like the type of person you’d like to care for :3

Well i’m here to help!!

Quick reason on why i’m doing this:

(feel free to skip straight to sources :3)

I notice lots of new caregivers don’t know where to start and have lots of questions.

“What exactly is age regressing? aka ‘agere’”

“What’s the difference between agere and age dreaming? aka ‘agedre’”

“How can someone pet regress/dream?”

“How can I make my little feel more comfortable?”

“How can I help my little regress/dream?”

And so on and so forth.

It hurts my heart to see so many age regressors and lost new caregivers that don’t really know where to look, what to do, or even where to start. So here I am!! Educating you >:D

Sources:

What age regression is

What age dreaming is

What pet regressing is

What pet dreaming is

How to properly care for a little one

CG 101

What agere and petre gear can look like

The difference between kink (CGL) and coping (CGLRE)

Little things that makes littles happy

Good things to do for your little

What is a caregiver?

CG no-nos

Questions to ask your lil one

Keep in mind,

not all regressors are the same :) Some are autistic, some are systems, some are neurotypical and others neurodivergent! Some really like a certain thing or aesthetic that helps them feel little! The ocean, cartoons or a specific cartoon! (I love 80s strawberry shortcake hehe) some like dark n spooky things while others like cute and frilly things! Others neither :3 The point is, get to know your regressor personally. for romantic or platonic reasons, a caregiver cares, protects, directs, teaches and provides support :) It’s not for just anyone. I’m a very caring and motherly figure outside of my regression, but sometimes it gets so overwhelming I need to be cared for. Every regressor and dreamer retreats to this childlike safe space for different reasons. If you want to be a cg, or a better cg, please pay attention to your little and what makes them smile, regress, giggle, feel comfortable, take care of themselves, sleep, and talk about what bothers them, what triggers them and hurts them so you can help. Communication is so important and means so much to us. It isn’t always giggles and playtime, sometimes its very much needed tantrums, sobbing, and destroying things so we don’t destroy ourselves.

If you’ve considered being a cg, no matter your answer, thank you ♡

Honestly, remember that you're a regressor at the end of the day. You're not a REAL mama, the same way I'm not these kiddos REAL brother. There is less of a responsibility to "grow up" and take care of someone when you remember that you yourself deserve that kind of care too. Kiddos also understand these boundaries, and making it clear that you can't always be a cg is very important!!

Here are some rules for littles without a caregiver or you can give your little as a cg. 

1. No sweets pat 8pm 2. No cursing 3. Use your manners 4. Bedtime is 11pm (or whatever time works best for you, but having a set bedtime is important!) 5. Get at least 8 hours of sleep 6. No caffeine past 8pm (or at least 2 hours before you go to bed) 7. Talk to someone if something if wrong 8. Don’t lie to cg (if you have one) 9. Always eat when you’re hungry if you can 10. Drink lots of water! At least 2 bottles a day. 11. Do all your homework 12. Be nice to yourself 13. Be nice to others  14. Always have your comfort items for when you may need them 15. Tell someone if someone is bothering you.

🍼think of what kind of caregiver you are. are you a strict caregiver who doesn’t let rule breaking slide? or are you a soft caregiver who just can’t help but let your regressor get away with anything? are you comfortable with infant regressors who use pacis and baby talk? or is that too much? decide who you are and what kind of regressor you’d work best with

🐻remember that every baby is different. some might like pacis and bottles while others prefer blankies or sippy cups. find out what kind of regressor your baby is so you can interact with them better! speaking of which..

🍯interact with your regressor when they’re little! when they show you a coloring page they did, don’t respond with just “looks good”. they will begin to think their little side annoys you! interact with them by playing with them, watching their favorite shows with them, and speaking to them softly and encouragingly.

🧸remember to be patient with your regressor in all aspects. they are in the mind state of a child after all!

🧴set rules and boundaries for your regressor. for their mental health, physical health, or even just to keep them happy! i will have a whole post of rules soon and once i finish it, it will be linked here

☀️realize that it’s okay to be a new cg and there’s nothing wrong with learning! let your regressor know that your new to the community and i’m positive they will help you learn the best way to care for them

🍪most importantly, age regression is 100000% safe for work!!!! remember this when talking to yours or other littles, setting rules and picking punishments, and even when talking or interacting with your little!! if you are looking for a nsfw relationship with someone while they’re small, this community is not for you!