I've noticed there's 2 types of anti endos which is the ones who are completely intolerant of any form of endo and understand the true harm it is if they co exist with trauma survivors. These anti endos are strong on their boundaries, block endos, and when harassed do their best to push past it till it's likely too much. This might lead to aggression often after attempting to keep space and be as respectful about their boundaries as possible. They get villainized, dog piled, and disrespected for simply trying to keep their boundaries up. The other being anti endos who are more willing to let them overstep, be rude, and ignore former anti endos boundaries for the sake of "peace". They are tolerant of endos if it means I don't have to deal with the drama. They'd rather put others comfort and safety in danger if it means they don't deal with too much backlash. They don't defend the people they are so called allies with instead keep their mouths shut to be seen as better than this petty drama. It bothers be so much because you're anti endo yet you so blatantly ignore them hurting others in the process of YOUR idea of peace. The Paradox of Tolerance is exactly what happens in some anti endo communities. It's sad to say that many are so willing to allow appropriation of cultures and abuse of disabled people for the sake of being seen as a "one of the good anti endos". I can block all day long in fact I have over 200 people blocked happily on my discord but that doesn't change how they can still talk using PK while in the same server. It doesn't stop the conversations that "I'm losing friends cause I'm pro endo" or "everyone blocks me because I'm pro endo." There is this idea we as trauma survivors have to tolerate people who see our disorder as a joke, who's whole livelihood was build on the idea our disorder isn't real. Why am I expected to sit still, be nice and play pretend with these individuals. Maybe not all endos end up being fakers, many likely have CDDs however there are plenty who actively see my disorder as a fun act. Why must I treat that person anything but how they present a joke and a for fun act. I'm tired of being this kind anti endo, I won't harass I think that's a waste of time but I'm done asking more than once to have my boundaries respected. I'm done pretending like endos aren't just another form of parasocial child and adults to disabled people. I'm most of all tired of other anti endos who perpetuate he Paradox of Tolerance. If you wouldn't want a bigot in your space why allow them into mine? Written by: Lux - shβ it light might make my own side blog who knows
