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My half-sister (16 F) is autistic and has ADHD. Her psychiatrist also thinks she is likely to also be bi-polar, which would add up as my mom was diagnosed with BPD when she was younger. She has had a diagnosis for Autism as long as I can remember. Unfortunately as semi-planned as she was (they were trying for a kid, couldn’t get pregnant and then she got pregnant by accident). When I was in 6th grade things started getting rough at home because my mom and ex-step father were constantly fighting. I think because her dad was working all the time, and my mom suddenly hated being a stay at home parent no one really payed attention to her.

This unfortunately means that she almost spent all of her free time on electronics unrestricted. This was only helpful for the fact that she could never get and keep friends in school. Well my mom is convinced that’s why she is having so many issues with my sister now. Her and my sisters dad divorced when I was 16, and my mom has primary custody. It’s been a huge struggle. I moved out of my mom’s house after a huge fight where she gave me an ultimatum, and I moved to another state to live with my dad. I’m older now and moved back to where they live currently and I am trying to help with my sister.

She is volatile. She is very obviously depressed because she can’t get and keep friends, my mom pulled her out of school because even going to an alternative school instead of the high school did not seem to help. My mom pushes her to actually do her school work, and my sister freaks out on her. We had to pull her out of school because she treats no one around her with any kind of respect. She swears and throws things at teachers, she attempted to push me and my mom down the stairs, she screams at strangers for making jokes she doesn’t like. And it is stressing me out.

My mom has grounded her from all electronics, and my mom can’t even keep them in the house. I have to keep them at my apartment or else my sister will stay up all night searching for them. My mom has a key to my apartment and we had to put cameras up because one day we came home and put back door was unlocked and open, a door we hadn’t used since we moved in. Me and my boyfriend (22 M) believe it’s because she came in while we were at work (we work late shifts) to try and find her stuff.

So now my sister has a phone but I literally have to control the parental controls for my mother. She can’t talk to anyone online, no social media, nothing. And I’m worried, especially since she is no longer in a physical school environment, that this will be detrimental to her mental health even more.

But the issue is when she has any kind of electronic even for a short period of time she becomes instantly worse. My mom told her to get off the phone with her girlfriend and go to bed the other night and she put a hole through her door. Whenever we would ask her to get off of her games soon, she would freak out and scream that we don’t love her. I have tried to have conversation after conversation to try and help her but I’m afraid neither me or my mom are approaching this right.

There are so many things as backstory that I just can’t add it all. She couldn’t go to the high school because she got bullied so bad, but the alternative school couldn’t help because she would make friends and they would quit being her friend for one reason or another, and then they would bully her. Her step father does not want her to live with him fulltime, and my mom is worried she will never be able to live on her own because she doesn’t give anyone any respect we don’t think she can hold a job down. But the problem is I’m not at my mom’s place 24/7. I don’t know exactly what she says and does, but I know my mom and I know she does a great job at pushing buttons and my sister has a lot of them. She had like one irl friend who has stuck with her through everything but she isn’t even nice to him and now he is actually keeping his distance after he graduated.

She is currently going to therapy, seeing a psychiatrist and taking Adderall, Abilify and one other medication I can’t remember that iirc is an anti-psychotic. (That’s been a chore in its own right to even get her to take those medications)

Feel free to ask questions if you want more details, I just didn’t want to flood this even worse. I just want to make the right choices. I want to help her because I don’t like to see her struggle, but I’m an adult now and work 40 hours a week and I already struggle with my mental health so helping her with her problems is difficult enough when I can barely cope and take care of mine. I’m just so sad because I want her to have friends, I want her to be able to play games online and code and draw, I want her to want to live.