#bpd asks

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I assume because I reblogged the Bunny Ask meme from you mean that one. I'll be cheeky and add the BPD one under a readmore because I like ask memes <3

11. What is your favourite colour of underwear? Green, unambiguously. I have a number of green sets because it matches my hair and just makes me feel cute. My absolute faces are a pair of striped ones with a green floral pattern on the waistband.

Here, I'm feeling brave! Have a picture:

As for the other Ask Meme

BPD Asks

11. When did you first start having symptoms?

This honestly breaks my heart. This is a very common experience for people just recently diagnosed with bpd and I went through it as well. This is going to be long and I apologize in advance lmfao

Those things that you are reading are not true. The best way to cope with this stigma is to keep in mind that people who write those articles have only met one or two toxic people with bpd or have an ex with bpd and they believe that every person with bpd is the same way. It’s an inaccurate generalization. It’s like having a bad experience with two girls named Hannah and then writing a whole article on how every girl named Hannah is horrible and should be avoided just bc you’re bitter ??? They are basing their articles on their own opinions and are not based on any factual evidence other than personal anecdotes. Not everyone with bpd is manipulative, abusive, attention seeking, violent, etc. In fact, MOST people with bpd do not fit this description.

Obviously there are some people who have bpd that do fit the stereotype, but there are people without bpd and without any mental illness at all that can fit this description as well.

Having any mental illness does not make you inherently abusive. The people who write these stigmatizing articles don’t know what they are talking about. Nowhere in the DSM criteria does it include being manipulative, abusive, attention seeking, violent, etc. You are not destined to hurt anyone.

I’ve met so many people with bpd in real life and on the internet and every single one of them are different. There were a couple who were toxic, but most are some of the sweetest, most supportive people I’ve ever met. They are often (obviously not always bc everyone is different) the type of friends that check up on you and ask you how you are feeling and are always there to listen to you.

Even the ways people with bpd express their symptoms are often different. For example, when feeling abandoned, one person with bpd might cut off all contact with everyone and isolate themselves, another might ask for reassurance, another might get angry, another might have a mental breakdown but not let the person know, etc. Everyone with bpd experiences and expresses bpd differently and has their own personality traits, interests, morals, goals, hobbies, etc.

It’s super important to recognize your triggers so you can avoid them and know when you are going to get upset. This is a good detailed post on how to do this: (x)

Another thing you should do (they actually taught me this while I was hospitalized) is recognize your warning signs. A lot of times recognizing triggers can be really hard and anger can seem to pop up out of nowhere. So, make a list of signs that you are getting angry. What is your thought process like? Do you have any physical signs (ex: clenched jaw/fists)? Do you start to catch an attitude? Do you begin to slam doors/kick things/throw things? Start recognizing these signs because when you first start to get angry is the easiest time to calm down. When you’re full on pissed it’s really difficult to get yourself to calm down.

When I can tell I’m getting angry, the thing I like to do the most is walk away. I tend to stay in a room where there’s no other people like my room or the bathroom. Sometimes I’ll also take a walk.

I also like to listen to music, watch YouTube videos, or watch Netflix.

What are some things you love to do that help you calm down? Do you like to sing? Dance? Draw? Paint? Write?

Even if you don’t like writing, you can also write down what’s going on, your thoughts, or a letter to a person who is pissing you off. When you’re done, rip up the paper into small tiny pieces.

There’s also grounding techniques that are mainly used for anxiety and dissociation but can also help anger. Here’s a list of some grounding techniques: (x)