Stop Being Afraid Your Book Will Offend Someone
Ā Iām going on a rant today, so stay tuned. Ā
Ā Iām tired of seeing posts in my writing group like:
Ā āIām afraid my book might trigger someone.ā
Ā āI donāt think I should publish my book because it might hurt someoneās feelings.ā
Ā āI donāt know if I should put trigger warnings in front of my book or not.ā
Ā Look, I know that a lot of people try to be kind and considerate, but nobody ever made anything of themselves by being afraid. If you feel passionately about something, write it and publish it anyway. Iām writing a romance book about a high school girl who gets involved with an older man, and I know itās going to upset a lot of people, because I donāt exactly cast their relationship in a negative light. I wrote it in first person from the perspective of the girl, so of course sheās not going to immediately think itās creepy that this twenty-something is interested in her. And to be fair, he didnāt know how old she was until it was too late. She, much like myself when I was a teenager, was often mistaken for a college girl. But you know what? I donāt care. I donāt care about what people think of my book. If someone can write something about a thousand year old vampire falling in love with a teenage girl, then my twenty-something isnāt so bad.
Ā You canāt say those types of books arenāt successful either because letās all just remember Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov.
And while weāre on the subject, letās remember The Color Purple by Alice Walker. It was rejected from schools and libraries for being too outrageously sexual, or Ulysses by James Joyce. For a period, all copies of the book coming into the U.S. were burned just because the book had a masturbation scene in it. Or letās remember that the freaking Ā Adventures of Huckleberry Finn by mark Twain use to be unacceptable reading because Huckās family was too kind to their slave.
Ā I could go on because there are any number of books which have caused controversy throughout the years, and more than a handful of people became upset at their existence, but you know what? They got published anyway. This post isnāt about just my book, either. Itās about any book. It could be about a book completely condemning the type of book Iām writing. If you are passionate about it, write the book. If you want a chance, even a small glimmer of hope to be successful in the vast ocean of books and publications, you canāt be afraid to be audacious. Not everyone needs to agree with you, and if youāre afraid youāre going to upset some people, those are what back covers are for. They can read the description and if they donāt like it, they donāt have to read it. If they read it anyway and get upset, thatās on them and not you.
Ā Besides all of that, no matter what you write, somebody is going to get upset. Even if you wrote the most neutral, trigger-less novel in the world, somebody would still be offended by it. So quit worrying so much about offending people; itās taking from the beauty of your work.
Ā Todayās post was short but sweet, but I really feel like this needed to be said. Making it as a writer is hard business, and nobody is concerned about your feelings, so donāt be so concerned about their feelings. Hopefully someone takes this to heart. Write your inner darkness. Go about your books murdering children and framing people for crimes they didnāt commit. Unless you stop caring what people think, the true spirit of your books wonāt shine through.