#bodypossitive

After all, we all have bodies.

And it’s especially important for the disability justice movement because a “relationship” between our body and society really often makes us disabled.

So, I will tell you one shameful thing about my disabled body.

I couldn’t stand water in my face or head. I I almost never wash my face and my head once a week (sometimes less often). Sometimes I need several days to have enough bravery just to go to the shower because I hate changing temperatures - especially when water changes temperature.

It is one of the most unpleasant feelings for me.

I like bubble bath but I could have problems with my pressure and faint after it, so this is not a reall solution.

Most of the time I fully wash my body only one time a week (sometimes two times), and on other days just wash my armpits and perineum. And I use deodorant for my armpits. That’s all.

And sometimes I forget to brush my teeth for weeks.

This is not something that I’m proud of. And I tried to make my personal hygienic life more easy and healthy. I haven't found any solution yet. And honestly I feel a little ashamed and shy after telling you this stuff. But this is part of who I am. Part of my problems. Part of my disability as Autistic person. Part of my sensory problems.

And the more people speak about it, the more easily the next generation of Autistic kids would find a solution for such problems.

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Our Abu Umar didn’t use sex toys (at least most of them). He believed that they are haram.

Me and most of other guys who have sex with our partner like sex toys.

So yeah, in a System, dear, you could have completely different sexual preferences. Because… well, just because of preferences, or health condition, or beliefs.

It doesn't matter.

What really matters is that no one could force you to be engaged in sexual practices- not your partner, not your alters.

If you just don’t like it, this is a proper reason for “no”.

You doesn’t have to have sex if you don’t want it.

You doesn’t want to use sex toys if you don’t want it.

You don't have to be engaged in sexual practice if you don’t want it.

Don’t be afraid to say no. It’s ok. It’s normal. And it’s doesn’t matter if other alters used this practice before or have this kind of sex before.

When you are fronting you have rights to desided if you would have sex or not, and what kind of sex.

You have the right for your personal boundaries even if you share a body.

And if someone doesn’t understand it, if someone doesn’t accept your “no”, it is a sexual harassment and violence.

This is the point.

It means:

- Women have a moral right to decide what to do with their bodies.

- Trans* and queer people have a right to decide what to do with their bodies.

- Fat and skinny people have a right to decide what to do with their bodies.

- Disabled people have a right to decide what to do with their bodies!

- Children and teens have a right to decide what to do with their bodies!!!

(Ets)

So everyone really means everyone.