tips for dealing with body image ? i sometimes feel like i have a warped perception of my body and i get into these weird and sometimes dangeours health phases. how could i deal with this?
hi!! a bit of a story time here: i remember when i was younger, one of my friends and i were joking around about how skinny one of our friends was and she said "guys, don't body shame." if you asked me a few years ago, i would say that i think that body image is only a problem if you think you're overweight. as i've gotten older, i've realized that body image, to a certain degree, is a problem for everyone - whether they are over or underweight or even the recommended weight.
i have my own on and off days and i've had a few questions come in to my inbox asking me about what size i am/how tall i am/how much i weigh and i choose to not answer those because i know that if i were to read a post like that two or three years ago, i would break down and go down this really unhealthy route. i think something that really helped me was rewiring my brain and telling myself that i wasn't working out to get rid of my insecurities. i was doing it to be strong and healthy. what i learned was that even if i succeeded and got rid of that one insecurity, i would just find something else that i didn't like about myself and try to change that as well. rewire your brain. don't workout to change the way you look. workout because it can be fun and because you want to start a healthier lifestyle.
i also saw this tiktok that i really loved and it was this girl saying: your body is the least interesting thing about you. read that again. it is the l e a s t interesting thing about you, my love. she then went on saying to think about your favorite person and ask yourself if you would still love them if their body changed. i think most of you would say that you would and that the way they look doesn't matter to you. so many people love you for your personality. for all of those inside jokes that you share, the endless nights talking about that celebrity you both love, your empathy, your sense of humor, your selflessness, the list goes on. love yourself the way you love your friends.
also kind of off topic but i've realized that not everyone knows this so: remember that your stomach naturally gets bigger throughout the day. it's normal. you're just as beautiful at the end of the day when you're bloated as you are in the morning when your stomach is flatter. and remember!! your body is the least interesting thing about you. show yourself some kindness. take it easy.
i love you. and the way you look means nothing to me. as long as you're trying your best and taking care of yourself, you are the definition of beauty in my eyes <3