in fandom we kind of raise each other you know? It just...happens. character development happens and we grow with the characters and each other. I just don't think it's possible to be in fandom and remain unchanged.
we start with the source material yes, knowing or learning that it's not perfect, but we found something we loved and we grew it. we learn and we do better.
jkr doesn't have claim on that and doesn't get to shit on that.
she created the characters but it doesn't mean she understands them best.
parents have you but they don't know everything about you, aren't always right, and have misconceptions about you colored by their own biases. family can also be toxic and you get to draw your line.
really, harry deserved better. so do we and we know it.