talk about own bladder issue & incontinence pads/adult diapers to abdl (am not abdl just a discussion/critique of it)
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“hold pee in so so long because body freeze” and
“sometimes sudden urge and have almost peed self sometimes” so
“maybe will make life easier if try out incontinence pads and adult diapers” but
“well technically have not lost control of bladder yet so do i really need it” and
“really bad sensory when thick stuff stick to body & butt especially wet thick stuff” but either way
“maybe since not fully incontinent, pads better.” but
“some specialty adult diaper so pretty!!!! will make diaper life at least prettier and feel better. but they all abdl. still can use but still will know is originally for abdl. but medical regular adult diaper so ugly.” and
“not my place to judge abdl, think kink shame bad. i don’t have to understand it to just let ppl participating in it be.” but
“still get upset thinking about abdl because most people participate are able *bodied* or at least don’t have medical bladder issue. adult diaper can’t really be separated from disability issue, adult diaper usage is disability issue even if abled bodied abdl. some disabled people need diapers, is not a choice. so because of close proximity to disabled space, abdl community should have regular conversation about disability and ableism, abdl community should be on forefront of disability advocacy and destigmatize adult diaper usage for ALL not just abdl. but don’t see most abdl community do that. so very very bitter.” but
“abdl make adult diapers more available so disabled people who need diapers who like the aesthetic can buy pretty diapers and turn diaper usage into a funner experience if struggle with very understandable shame and resentment.” but also
“abdl diapers more expensive. which many disabled people can’t afford because disproportionately low income. which only make me more bitter.”
complicated issue like all things. never binary “this only good” “this only bad” but still allowed to be upset over it.
(having bladder issue and/or incontinence is a-okay and don’t deserve to live in shame. i see you if you have that. i see u whether u choose to wear incontinent pads or adult diapers or none.)
