When he says you expect too much, but you already live like this.

Man, it’s been so long since I’ve been on here and I’m not sure how many active followers still rock with my blog. I will say though so much has changed in terms of my mindset and viewpoints about life and the world and I like to think they’ve changed for the better. Don’t get me wrong, the main premise of my blog still stands (a blog dedicated to black girls), however, I feel that my view on femininity, gender and sexuality as a whole has expanded and evolved into being more open and accepting. When I first started my blog at 16, it came from a place a hurt and frustration about not being accepted for who I was; someone who enjoyed what some would call stereotypical “feminine activities” and how it was seen as unacceptable for black girls. I thought that because of this, any black girl who wasn’t like me and perhaps enjoyed more stereotypical “masculine activities” were a detriment to black women and made the collective “look bad”. In my mind I felt that black women were associated enough with masculinity and that we didn’t need to add to the stereotype. It makes me cringe to type this but I must be honest about my mindset at the time. How ironic of me to hate on black girls who liked interests different from mine when the whole premise of my blog stemmed from people doing the same to me. Today, I appreciate all black women and their interests. I’m here for it as long as it isn’t detrimental to themselves or others. Now, am I still a woman who loves pink, fashion, nails, hair, makeup and other “girly” things… hell yeah! And for the most part I think my blog will still cater to that (whenever I’m on here, lol). But no longer will I lean into femininity specific content such as “how a woman should act, dress, speak, etc. That’s not what I believe woman should focus on. We should do what we like, not what others say we should like.