The insistence that people will ONLY be happy or will miraculously get over their past trauma if they end up in a traditional monogamous romantic and sexual relationship is fucking infuriating. All I fucking hear is
āoh youāll find someone some dayā
āI hope you meet someone who can make you happyā
āyour other half is out there somewhereā
āOnce you meet someone your feelings will change and you can move onā
Like. Fucking what? WHY do you think that the only possible way for me to be happy or content with my life is by surrendering over my fucking autonomy and independence to a single person and having my entire life revolve around them?
WHY would my past trauma just suddenly disappear if I āmet someoneā? Iām not gonna forget being raped the next time I sleep with someone. Iām not gonna forget being psychologically abused if someone asks me out. These are parts of me that will stick forever, and humouring your weird ass ideals is not going to change that.
If I want to date several people that is my choice. If I want to date NO ONE that is also my choice. I donāt need your fucking tradwife bullshit gospel, I am VERY queer and I greatly value my interpersonal relationships with people that arenāt romantic and sexual, which somehow seems to be an uncommon take at this point?
Why are family and friends and platonic soulmates cast aside when someone finds a romantic partner? Why am I seen as āless thanā because Iām not in a traditional monogamous relationship? Why do I have to rely on that to be happy or respected or to just not be fucking alone when everyone around me ends up in relationships?
Stop fucking abandoning people for a āsignificant otherā. It makes you a shitty friend and dilutes your support network.
