Hot tip: have a friend who expresses the concern that they are Too Much? Are they indeed A Lot? Instead of (kindly, with the best of intentions) lying to them and being like “nooooo, you’re a perfectly normal amount,” consider instead expressing that you enjoy their muchness! For extra bonus points, if you notice that they’re being A Lot in a particular way at a particular time and you’re enjoying it, share that with them!
Examples might include:
- “You’re hilarious, I love that you always commit to the bit 1000%”
- “You’re right, that IS bullshit, and it’s awesome that you pointed it out - you’re always the first person to speak up when things are out of line and it really makes me feel like I can speak up, too.”
- “I could hear you laughing from outside - it was like getting a hug before I even came in, your joy is so infectious!”
Your friends don’t need you to help them be smaller.
