The Third Quarter Doesn’t Count You Out!
Back in the game; “to become involved or active in something again. Returning to some activity after an absence.”
Returning to something after a hiatus can either energize you or make you feel defeated. Full transparency here, I would have loved to have started rocking out my goals in the first quarter but it came and went, the second quarter I thought, “Oh this is it, let’s get down to business” but again the time passed. But now here I am in the third quarter and I am now energized and I can only contribute it to one thing, I left my contract job at the end of last month. Now don’t get me wrong the job was fine and my boss was amazing, she wanted me to come on full-time I turned her down and told her that the goals that I have for myself do not align with this role. Whew, child talk about growth LOL! There was a time in my life I would have taken the job offer and then been miserable as heck and when you take the time to learn about yourself, I mean going deep within what you will find is that a lot of things, you should have never entertained, got involved with and wasted your precious time plus gifts on stuff that isn’t meant for you. I had to learn that and at times to my detriment. I could have easily wallowed in self-pity because let’s be honest that is one of the easiest things to do, those pity parties be lit. The real question is, do you want to continue to have those types of parties or do you want to do the things you have always wanted to do, if the answer is yes, like mine was a thunderous yes, then let’s discuss how we can take steps toward it.
First, take your eyes off what everyone else is doing and put that attention on yourself. Second, whether you journal, do voice memos, meditate, do yoga, or whatever it is to help you get clarity on yourself, do that. Also, get quiet (no phones, or social media). Third, start removing distractions from your life (I know this is a tricky one for many of us) so you will have to start slow and build your way up. Fourth, be kind and gentle with yourself by understanding that it takes time.
My journey is ongoing, letting go of my fears and doubts, being careful to not self-sabotage, silencing the critical voice in my head, removing myself from the rabbit hole of comparison, and refraining from gossip and slander. These things if I am not careful, mindful, and watchful will keep me from moving forward. As a good friend of mine always says, “Watch and Pray”
Remember if something no longer serves you, or you choose to no longer sit at the table just get up and leave. There is no need to martyr ourselves over people or things that do not light our spirits aflame.
Until My Next Post…Never Count Yourself Out!
Photo Credit: Andrew Wise