#ask shay

What frustrates me about all three is that sometimes, it feels like it will take nothing short of some kind of calamity to force the societal change that would be necessary for these things to happen. It can be really demoralizing. But we can't give up, no matter what. There are people depending on those of us in a position to fight to keep fighting.

Looking down at you, Haytham repositions his hat. “I should tell you, I’m learning about important dates in history,” he says, “would you like to be one of them?”

Hey! I’m doing well 😊How’re you? Hmm, I’d strongly say to focus on studies and that distancing yourself from your friends is the best thing you can do for yourself. Our thoughts become our reality and if we surround ourselves with negative people, we also take on their negativity. And that will definitely reflect in your life. I’d recommend focusing on studies and also yourself. We attract what we are, so focus on embodying happiness and positivity will attract friends that think the same way. Another thing is that we need to learn how to be alone. Though I’ve been alone for a huge part of my life and surrounded by toxic people, I always had this innate fear of being abandoned. I’ve compromised so much of myself just to keep people around and trust me when I say it hasn’t brought me anything but pain. I’m 21 but I spent the past 2 years teaching myself to be alone and enjoy it. You have to live with yourself your entire life and if you can’t enjoy that then you’re only going to feel sad and lonely for the years to come. I know being alone feels awful. I stuck around with really negative people in high school because I was scared to be the chick eating lunch alone. Reality is, you can’t find happiness anywhere except within yourself. So if you can’t be happy by yourself, then you’ll never be happy. Also, why should you settle for friends like that? Are you hoping they’ll change? Because that won’t happen. People who don’t want to change, simply won’t. Especially negative people, and those people will infect your life with negativity because misery loves company. They don’t like to see anyone around them as happy, even their own friends or family. The price to pay for sticking around is much much higher than being alone for a little while. And I’m sure I’m not wrong in thinking that you want a friend group you can trust and that will lift you up instead of bringing you down. Focus on your studies and I promise that when your efforts come to fruition, you will have a fantastic friend group to celebrate with. These opportunities don’t come by all the time - take it from someone who destroyed her education and all possible career paths by trying to fill this void in me with friends who I deserved much better than. Good luck, love!💕

I also just recently lost my cat so making fics these past weeks have been hard on me. Please remember and understand that im a real person with feelings and a life.