#asexuality defined

Asexual is LGBT+.

Asexuals can identify as queer.

If an asexual doesn't want to be part of the LGBT+ or queer community that's fine too.

All of the above include cishet asexuals.

They also include aromantic asexuals.

Asexuals aren't "basically straight".

Asexuals have been oppressed.

Corrective rape is considered a part of asexual oppression.

Conversation therapy that asexuals experience is considered conversion therapy and oppression.

Yes, people do get mad and attack us because we "don't want to fuck".

Ace discrimination isn't somehow caused by homophobia.

People under the age of 18 can identify as asexual.

People that enjoy sex or are sexually active can identify as asexual.

Asexuals aren't broken.

Asexuals aren't always autistic.

Asexual doesn't mean the plumbing doesn't work.

Asexual doesn't mean afraid of sex.

Asexual isn't caused by trauma.

Asexual isn't cringe.

Sex isn't necessary for happiness.

Sex doesn't make us human.

Bold of you to think I WANT to be human.

Asexuality existed as far back as 1970 (actually, I think it went further, but I don't have receipts on that.)

Aphobia is recycled biphobia.

Absolutely not.

I’m Asexual, I have a high libido. I have fetishes. I masturbate.

Given, that’s just my experience, and not everyone’s experience is the same. I’m just trying to clear up common stereotypes about asexuals.

Even if asexuals have no libido, fetishes, and don’t masturbate, there’s nothing wrong with them. Hormones control literally everything from your mood, digestion, energy levels, etc. So, if someone’s hormones were out of wack, they’d have symptoms other than lack of libido that’d have them go to the doctor concerned.

That said, if you are concerned, go to your doctor for blood tests. However, a random stranger on the street or internet has no grounds to diagnose you with out of balance hormones (even if they are a doctor). 

Hearing people's "Am I too young?" stories makes me think. I didn't really "finish puberty" until a my first or second year of college (It was I long puberty, it started at 10, but I was just scrawny until I was about to graduate high school). Yet I was explained sex before I even started puberty (To which I said "I'm not going to want that.") My parents explained that I'll change my mind when I'm an adult, so I spent a very long puberty wondering when that'll happen.

I hear these stories of the rest of the LGBT+ rainbow figuring out they're LGBT in elementary school. The more I think about it, the more I realized I was ace in elementary school, and I spent a decade thinking all kids felt the same way I did, and a switch magically flipped in puberty.

No. I've always known I was ace. You're never too young to know you're ace. I just didn't know not everyone felt like me, and there's a word for it!

Asexuals go through a lot because they are asexual. Some people think we’re broken. Some people think we have PTSD. I’ve been told that I must be scared of sex and need therapy.

Worst case scenarios are corrective rape or conversion therapy (both of which asexuals have been victim to).

I think the most annoying, is even the most supportive people seem to not believe us. I’ve been told to “prove it” by even the most supportive people. Questions like “how do you know you’re asexual?”,  “how do you know you don’t experience sexual attraction?”, or “What is sexual attraction to you?” are all too common for us.

The answer is, I don’t know! I just don’t! Asking these questions is just as dumb as asking someone “How do you know you’re color blind?”, “How do you know you don’t see the color red?”, or “What do you think the color red is?”

It’s stupid to ask a colorblind person how they know they’re colorblind because you’re asking them to explain something they don’t experience it. It’s the same way for asexuality. I don’t know what this elusive sexual attraction thing is. All I know is I don’t experience it. How do I know that I don’t experience it? Because I don’t know what it is. Everyone that does experience it says they just know what it is.

Absolutely! But not all of them do.

"How can this be?" You ask.

It's simple. Sex- drive is your desire for sexual pleasure. Your sexual attraction points that desire at someone, "I want this sexual pleasure from that person."

So if you're asexual and have a libido, you'll either deal with your libido on your own (masturbate), or, if your partner is sexual, you'll be sexually active with them. Just not for the same reasons a sexual would.

A sexual is sexually active because they're sexually attracted to that person.

Absolutely!

Just because asexuals aren’t sexually attracted to anyone doesn’t mean they can’t have (or enjoy) sex. It also doesn’t mean certain kinks can turn them on.

However, like everything, it’s no different than with sexuals. Not all sexuals have kinks, and not all asexuals have kinks. We’re all different and like different things, especially in bed.

It depends on the asexual person, but honestly you can’t always talk about sex around every sexual person either.