I have a partner we've been together for over a year but I'm starting to wonder if im actually romantically attracted to her. I don't really know what romantic atraction is but I still want to do all those things that couples do (minus the allosexual stuff). Do you know a good way to describe the difference? Is there any?
hello! i've kind of always struggled with explaining romantic attraction especially when i'm not in a relationship currently but i will try my best! for me, romantic attraction always starts with just wanting to be around that person and feeling good around them and there's typically like a nervousness i feel at the beginning, but, when i'm in a relationship with that person and i get more comfortable romantic attraction tends to feel like just comfort and warmth and feeling safe and happy! the only real way i can describe the difference between romantic and platonic attraction is that i don't want to kiss my friends but i would want to kiss my partner. i think because you still want to do the things that couples do and you and your partner have been together for so long it might just be that you've gotten really comfortable with being with her and are trying to think of why you shouldn't be, i know that i've done that in a few relationships i've had. i'm not on the aromantic spectrum so i will try to get nyx to comment on this as well, but in the meantime, i hope this helped! and if you have any more questions you could always send me a message here or send another ask!
mars
