#aroace spec

Be queer

Be trans

Have a physical disability

Have a neurodevelopmental conditional 

Have a mental illness 

Be chronically ill 

Be “weird”

Be intersex 

Not follow gender norms 

Have a learning disability 

Be nonbinary

Be on the aro/ace spectrum

Choose a non-STEM career

Have different religious beliefs than you

Not have a similar personality to you

I do NOT mean that you cannot grieve the life you would’ve wanted or expected for them. You are allowed to feel upset or struggle when things change, but you cannot stay there. What I DO mean is that it is your job as the parent to accept that that was your first reaction, and then work with someone, whether it be a friend, therapist, or whoever, to get yourself up to speed. That part is not your child’s job. You should be there to support them, be there, help them however you can, learn for them, and prove that your love for them is not, and will never be, conditional. 

if you can wrap your head around asexuals who have sex without having sexual attraction, why can't you wrap your head around aromantics who have relationships without romantic attraction? you might say "well there's a microlabel for that! like aroflux or cupioromantic!" which is all well and fine....except those microlabels still fall under the aromantic spectrum. THEY ARE STILL AROMANTIC.

it seems to me that the same reason why people don't seem to view aromanticism as a fluid identity is the reason why people don't view asexuality as anything BUT a fluid identity, never acknowledging the asexuals who are sex-averse or repulsed in favor of always talking about those who DO have or like sex.

It so aesthetically pleasing!!! The color palette is just gorgeous, and I’m weak for pinks and purples.

Also the arospec flag?!!

The greens and greenish-blues are just so calming and peaceful. It makes my heart so happy!

Edit: Apparently there’s an aroace spec flag?! And it’s gorgeous too, of course ♡

I literally can’t even-

the project hail mary fandom (and fandom space as a whole) was so excited to have an aroace/aroace spec character for the first few months, but now there's an overwhelming amount of support for gracerocky and bloodymary to the point that I rarely see fan media tagged as explicitly aroace except for a few dedicated users. sorry but this feels fucking aphobic to me!!

obviously tags aren't a perfect measurement of engagement but this is a pretty clear example of the difference in fans:

this story places absolutely no emphasis on romantic/sexual love, and actually does the opposite which is a huge rarity and a massive fucking deal. so no wonder aroace people latched onto it. but then some people want to twist the story into something sexual or romantic - which, granted, you can do whatever you like - but I've recently noticed such a vitriol that people have when reacting to any complaints from aroace people about this.

you can ship what you want, no one will stop you - but the amatonormativity in the PHM fandom is fucking horrible. aroace people are silenced and told to stop snatching the toys from others when they've got genuine criticisms towards other people in the fandom.

maybe your insistence on placing a character that was - 1: not motivated by pursuing romance, and 2: actively ostracised and put in danger because of their lack of interest in romance - into romantic situations that don't match their character reads as fucking aphobic to people. who'd have thought

you can ship whatever you want i guess. this is just an example of a larger phenomenon of amatonormativity and speaking over aroace voices but i am fucking angry about this. people can comment on random fanart/edits (for any fandom) saying "X is so bi coded here" and everyone's chill but as soon as you say the same for aroace headcanons people start bending over backwards to justify why you're wrong. hey let me have this one guy. I dont have any other guys.

My friend @shellywith2ls found this on Pinterest during our homeroom today, and when she showed me I started dying laughing.

I asked her to send it to me and she just saved the photo and texted it to me, so I can’t properly credit the person who made this. If you see this, hi, I love this, let me know so I can properly credit you 🙃

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