#aro media

So let me tell you about my current favorite show:

Koisenu Futari / Two people who can't fall in love

It's a Japanese show centered around two AroAce characters who try to make a life together and support each other in the face of society's expectations!

It's 4 hours long (8 ep - 30 minutes each)

You can find it on Dailymotion (here) or Myasiantv.ac (here). The English subtitles aren't perfect (mostly a lot of gender mix-up between he/she, boyfriend/girlfriend, ...) but they do the job well enough!

I'm halfway through ep 2 and I fucking love it, this show is so good!!!!

I love both protagonists so much, and they feel so lively! Witnessing Sakuko discover the AroAce label brought me to tears from sheer joy and relief for her!

Any aspec media is really hard to find, but it's especially the first time I see a story centered around two AroAce characters and I'm so happy!!!

Anyway go watch it, it's worth it!

Ugh I've been trying to think of / find answers for this and frustratingly I've come up short!! The only allosexual demiromantic rep I can think of is Fire Becomes Her but that is very much about friendship & QPRs so I wouldn't recommend it in this case.

Going to throw this out to my followers and the aro crowd, hopefully they'll know of some more options??

So, I’ve posted before about the website I’m making. It’s essentially a searchable database of movies, books, TV shows and video games. It’ll allow you to search by different relationship types, content warnings, genre, protagonists, romance level etc. It was initially just a way for find romance free or limited romance media (or get warning in advance when you plan to watch something), but I’ve realised all those other things could be helpful.

I’m far enough in that I want some specific thoughts as I continue. I’ve done some bolding to try to make it easier to pick info out, hopefully it’s clear. Under a cut for length.

In a world without amatonormativity….

A little boy and a little girl could play together on the playground at school, without worry of their peers teasing them about cooties or sitting in trees “K-I-S-S-I-N-G”.  People of all genders could genuinely be friends without scrutiny.   First could come friendship and even love, without marriage and a baby expected to follow after.

In a world without amatonormativity….

Kids could grow up watching more movies with happy endings not depending on a wedding. They wouldn’t be taught falsities about love before they can even grasp the concept; they wouldn’t be fed the myth of “soulmates”, where happiness is attained from meeting someone destined for them, erasing the reality that healthy relationships of any form take work. They could grow up with movies about living “happily ever after” based on finding themselves, rather than some arbitrary “one true love”.

In a world without amatonormativity….

Relatives wouldn’t always ask about “When you’ll get a girlfriend/boyfriend”, because it wouldn’t be assumed as the default eventuality for everyone. And people would say “If you get married..” rather than “when”. Better yet, perhaps there wouldn’t be marriage at all.  Romance and marriage wouldn’t be seen as the only relationship model worth pursuing; more people would actually care about building intimate friendships instead.

In a world without amatonormativity….

Maybe people would see that queer rights don't begin and end with marriage equality and "love is love", ignoring trans people and the need for protections from discrimination in general.  The nebulous concept of “Love” wouldn’t be elevated on a pedestal above all else, and the worth of a person wouldn’t be measured by their capacity to “Love”.   Love is love is love is NOT what makes us human.

In a world without amatonormativity...

People would acknowledge there’s more than one way to love. “Love” wouldn’t be such a narrowly manufactured and hollowly commercialized concept as it is today, instead it could actually be meaningful with individual nuance to everyone.  People wouldn’t uniformly prioritize one form of love, condemning all others as inconsequential or inherently wrong.  Friendships would be valued more, and relationships in general would be healthier for it. 

hi, okay, so a few-ish months ago i looked up "aro" on apple music to see what came up. a playlist named "Aromantic Anthems" by Emily R came up and i enjoyed quite a few of the songs .anyhow, i made my own playlist, several of the songs on it come from her playlist, but i added some of my own

Never Been In Love- Will Jay

New Romantics- Taylor Swift

Single-Minded- Anna Mae

Without Love You Can Save The World- Crazy Ex-Girlfriend Cast

Love Myself- Hailee Steinfeld

Don't Ask Me To Explain- of Montreal

This is Home- cavetown

Crush Culture- Conan Gray

Haze- Amber Run

Don't Bother Calling- Moses Sumney

i'm so tired- Lauv & Troye Sivan

Solo Dance- Martin Jensen*

A Diamnod and a Tether- Death Cab for Cutie

Sunnyland- Mayday Parade

(*the opening lyrics might be talking about assualt, but it's really unclear, just thought to let you know about that)

a few of my favorite bands are MCR, tøp, The Paper Kites, Mayday Parade, Paradise Fears, Hollow Coves, and Amber Run

there aren't that many songs that really relate to the aro experience but, hey, here are a few and i always have an eye (or ear) out for others.