#apricity posts

usually this is because they’ve been punished in the past for voicing their opinions, not because they’re out to annoy you specifically. depending on how much flack they used to receive, it can be very stressful for them if you try and force them to offer up an idea.

(edit: this was based off what my friends had told me about why they don’t like choosing things, it’s come to my attention anxiety at large is a much more common reason! although I will say this point wasn’t about abuse specifically, just any type of teasing/bullying/demeaning response to someone giving an opinion. there are many reasons people can feel uncomfortable voicing opinions, and they’re all understandable— I never intended to imply otherwise.)

Do you know what else affected me?

Dancing under the glow of LED strip lights with my best friend at 3am. The pair of shoes my godmother gave me with the cute little bows that I wear for good luck. My girlfriend laughing so hard at my joke she had tears on her face. The hours and hours I’ve spent scribbling in the margins of books. Buying the ugliest sweater at goodwill because it made all my friends grin. Listening to that song on repeat while I swayed through the halls at school, smiling in response to all the weird looks people sent me.

flushed pink: barely tinted pink. giggles that came like champagne bubbles and lingering smiles in the following silence

lipgloss pink: glittering pink. kind words and patient ears, always a tissue on hand to dry off tears

sweaty pink: rosewood pink. the heat of hard work right before a relaxing shower

sunrise pink: warm pink. productivity, brunch, bullet journals, hearts doodled in the margins of books

sylveon pink: rouge pink. the color of your childhood stuffed animal that helped you stop crying

you are going to make mistakes. like, a lot of mistakes. that’s okay

sometimes you’re going to mistakes so bad that someone can’t forgive you, and sometimes other people are going to make mistakes so bad you can’t bring yourself to forgive them. this is also okay. you can not force forgiveness, even with all the love on the planet

gut instincts are based on things your subconscious is processing, which means there are facts leading you to discomfort and it is rational. trust yourself

you never have to touch or be touched in any way or by anyone you don’t want. this goes for hugging relatives, kissing my cheek, anything

someone being upset does not mean you owe them physical affection. if an adult is upset and asks you for a hug, and you don’t want to give them one, you don’t have to just because they are upset

sometimes i will outright say no to letting you do things, but i will always explain the why. never be scared of asking me why i made a decision

i am here for you, but i am not here to control you. you have the right to privacy. if anything is ever making you uncomfortable or scared, you will be able to hide it from me if you really want to. but i want to know because i want to help, not because i want to get you in trouble 

stuffed animal name selection process if very important. i recommend we do some investigation together to help you decide on a best one 

you do not need to like things just because i like them. youre allowed to have your own opinions 

my love for you is not conditional upon anything. my love is not based on you being happy, on you being charming, on you getting good grades, on your gender, on who you love, on how abled you are, my love for you is because of you and not how you will get labeled

if you want to talk, i am here to talk. if you want to not talk, i am here to watch cartoons in silence. if you need comfort food, we’re having mac’n’cheese tonight. if you need space, i will read in my room. if you need fun, it’s time for a pillow fort. if you need to cry, i will get some tissues and hold you close