#anu's mail

Hello anon this semester I took a 'critical approaches to literature' class and I failed it. Like it was my first time failing a class ever and I enjoyed this class so much. I feel like everytime I don't get the expected grades I get really sad lmao.So these are some of the tips that helped me:

Let yourself grieve, be sad. I wrapped myself in multiple blankets and cried which helped me feel better. It's okay to grieve for missed opportunity. Don't let anyone tell you you're being overdramatic

I took rest for 2 whole days, just watching comfort movies, writing a lot in my journal. Asking myself why do I feel like I didn't perform well enough, what are the ways I can not repeat the similar mistakes in future.

With bad grades comes a whole lot of self doubt and I keep thinking "would I be able to reach my goals if I keep things like this? Do I even have it in myself to reach my goals" And the answer is " Yes you can reach your goals, this current younger version doesn't have to face those problems . And your future self would obviously be wise enough to do it". Like yeah 19 year old me won't be the one applying for research programs or whatever those exams are. Older me who's gonna learn a lot in these coming years would be the one dealing with those problems and I'm sure they'll do great!

Once again if you feel disappointed in yourself, do some introspection, take rest, take things slowly and don't stress too much. I know you might think that I'm being too calm but I actually give all exams with 'jo hoga dekha jayega' which means 'whatever happens I'm strong enough to face the consequences'.

Not getting expected grades suck but you've to keep reminding yourself that your grades are not important than your mental health. Whenever I'm too stressed cause of grades my dad always tells me - don't get too caught up in the number game. Grades change you might not always have the best grades but what matters more is that you tried your best you could at the given moment.

clouds are amazing cotton candies of the sky I want to eat them ngl, also I did saw the other anon's msg and it really made me smile so big so thank you so much for that dear other anon!!💕

now time for today's questions: what are your fav quotes and or lyrics and how did you get into k-pop B'cuz I'm curious haha, drink loads of water and take care -🎐

Hello love! Yes the oxygen at my place is very crisp sjdbdj . This is so unfair you're gatekeeping your music taste from me/hj. I didn't know about Daniel earlier but I asked my friend (@/museeofmoon) and she said he's an amazing musician and also your music taste is really good<3. I listened to paranoia and what are you upto this evening and absolutely loved both of them. Well at least you're not a coffee hater lol. 🤝 on eating cotton candy clouds!

Some of my favorite lyrics are -

" I love everybody because I love you " - strawberry blond

" I am my mother's child , I'll love you till my breathing stops " - writer in the dark

" If I could give you the moon, I would give you the moon " - moon song

Currently my favorite quote is - " You're my polar star , I'll go wherever you guide me " ( iron widow)

Hello! Sure! 🌼

So these are the methods I use and they've been effective for me

1. Write down your syllabus/ topics you need to cover - Keep the sheet of paper while starting self studying so you don't get lost and confused about where to start. And cross each topic when you've understood it and made notes.

2. Start from the basics - For example you've to study social psychology or cognitive so start with what it is, what's it's scope, names of important psychologists who made a significant contribution in the field, theories and experiments.

3.Highlighting the text - Find a color coded highlighting method while reading the textbook. Like I use- pink for important things related to the topic, blue for definition of terms and effects, green for things that are not important in context to that particular chapter but would help in the future chapters.

4. YouTube and Wikipedia!! - before actually starting with something I watch a YouTube video related to it to get an idea about what are the things that keep repeating there and in my book. Sometimes when I'm too tired I'll watch a crash course video related to it and note down the terms I don't know the meaning of and yeah learning first about the simplified version of theories helps better in understanding.

5. Note taking order - I start with the definition ➡it's nature and scope ➡ factors affecting it /determinants/formation( yk for topics like attribution and attitude)➡ subfields if any ➡ Theories with at least one example . If possible try to include the example in your way if it's kinda funny and related to something you like you're more likely to remember it. I use vine references all the time!

You're my fav buddhu🥰

Thank you for being the Jay to my jungwon ig hshsjdkdmj . You're my favorite bhaisahab