accepting aros and aces in the queer community must also mean accepting that the attraction we might feel is different from the allo mainstream, that if we have other orientations like lesbian, pan, het, bi etc., they might be defined by attraction types other than romantic or sexual, or may not specify attraction type at all, that were accepted into bi+/gay communities even if our attraction doesn't follow the allo norm.
accepting aces is more than accepting we feel little to no sexual attraction and "well, they wanna date x gender so they're fine". accepting aros is more than accepting we feel little to no romantic attraction and "well, they wanna fuck x gender, so they're fine".
accepting aros and aces also means accepting us into bi+ and gay communities if we identify as such, even if our attraction isn't about dating or fucking, even if our attraction isn't action-driven, even if our attraction is vague, hypothetical or hard to define, even if sexual and romantic attraction aren't present at all.
aro/ace inclusion is more than just welcoming us into the general queer community, it's also welcoming us into orientation subcommunities we might be part of.
ultimately truly accepting us into the queer community means dismantling allonormativity.
