Basically I just learned that my cousin (older teen boy) has a girlfriend, to which I said “really? How’d he manage that?” (A bit rude, I know. I didn’t think before speaking) to which my family started getting mad at me. I, trying to explain, made the situation worse by saying “well, it’s just that… his behavior is kinda crass, don’t you think?” And my family got even more mad. For context his favorite insult, which he uses daily at every woman around him (including his own mother) is “grosse pute” (for the Americans it translates to “fat whore” and is a deeply offensive and vulgar slur usually directed at a woman to defame her character) He says it to any woman he disagrees with and refuses to apologize or acknowledge that his behavior is inappropriate. I personally think “crass” is too mild a word for this kind of shit, honestly.

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I (21F) have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for almost two years.

A few months ago, I managed to get two tickets to see our favorite band. They sold out in minutes, so I was really excited. The plan was for us to go together.

His birthday was coming up, so I decided to surprise him by telling him one of the tickets was his birthday gift.

He was thrilled.

A week later, I found out through one of his friends that he had already promised the ticket to his younger brother because "he'd enjoy it more."

I thought it was a joke.

When I asked him about it, he said he assumed I wouldn't mind because I could "just go with someone else."

I reminded him that I bought both tickets and the entire point of the gift was for us to experience the concert together.

He said I was making a big deal out of nothing and that "it's just a concert."

So I told him if he wasn't planning to go with me, then the ticket wasn't his anymore.

I transferred the ticket back to myself and invited my cousin instead.

Now my boyfriend is furious, saying I "took back a birthday gift," which he thinks is childish and controlling.

His brother is also upset because he was already excited about going.

My friends are split.

Some say once you give someone a gift, it's theirs to do whatever they want with.

Others say the gift wasn't just a concert ticket—it was an invitation to spend time together, and he completely ignored that by giving it away without asking.

Now my boyfriend says I owe him an apology.

It’s gotten more attention than I thought it would - 1,300 upvotes at last check 😮.

Consensus is that I’m not liable in any way but I am emotionally messed up for thinking I should just pay to make it go away. Plenty of other comments say that there are multiple idiots in the mix. I agree with all of them.

The ones that hurt? The few that say my post is AI slop. Oof. I think I’ve seen three that accuse me of using AI and one that said it’s “cutesy.” These I answered. I stated I have a decade worth of writing that shows my style and language use. Cutesy? Oh, honey, I edited myself way, way down. I love a good turn of phrase or fun comparison. I don’t even think I got any word play, run-on sentences, or ellipses in it!

I also left out the raccoon. The deer. Turkeys. The crows my dad taught to come to the yard for kibble and unsalted, still in shell peanuts. The raccoon and deer are discouraged. They go ham on the bird feeders and plants. The rabbits are a nuisance too. There are no local rules about feeding wildlife - especially since the only real food put out is bird food. No corn, no human food, no grasses or veggies.

I omitted a large chunk of why I became the responsible one. I also trimmed out how my anxieties extrapolate and doomsday scenario so much that most of what I worry about is so unlikely that most people in my life figure that if I’m stressed about something at all it must be worst if the worst case so it can’t actually be a problem.

So yeah, accuse me of a lot and I’ll just chalk it up to “can’t please everyone all of the time.” Accuse me of using AI to write? I’m responding because I absolutely loathe AI generated writing. I think it’s one of the reasons I try to not use the same words more than once in any given piece. There’s a dictionary of words and a thesaurus to help find alternatives. I don’t need to say the same ones over and over.

Ok. I’m done now. Sorry for the rant. I just don’t like being accused of something like using AI because I don’t know how to prove that I don’t other than pointing to the trash heap that is this blog and the one that is my Ao3 and just doing a Vanna White motion.

I (24F) work full-time, and on my days off I usually catch up on chores, relax, or spend time with friends.

My older sister (30F) has a four-year-old daughter. I love my niece and have babysat plenty of times in the past—when I actually agreed to it.

Last week, I got a text from my sister saying, "Thanks again for watching Lily on Saturday! She can't wait to see you."

The problem?

No one had asked me.

I replied saying I never agreed to babysit and already had plans.

She told me she had promised her friends she'd go on a day trip and assumed I'd "be okay with it."

I apologized but said I wasn't canceling my plans because she never asked.

She got angry and said family should help family.

Then my mom called me and said I was being selfish because "it's only one day."

I reminded both of them that I would've happily watched my niece if they had asked ahead of time.

Instead, they volunteered me without even checking if I was available.

Saturday came, and I stuck to my plans.

My sister ended up paying a babysitter, and she's now demanding I reimburse her because she "wouldn't have needed one if I had just helped."

My mom agrees and says I should pay at least half since my sister was "counting on me."

My dad, on the other hand, says this whole situation could've been avoided if my sister had simply asked instead of assuming.

Now my family is divided.

Some think I should've canceled my plans because it's my niece.

Others think volunteering someone else's time without asking is incredibly rude.