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i’m a trans guy recovering from an ed. while i was never shockingly underweight, my food restriction kept me from gaining weight through puberty. now that I’m recovering I’ve gained a substantial amount of weight. It’s healthy gain, I feel better, and I know it’s what I need, even if the bmi scale says otherwise. I love my body. I love my chubbiness.

now comes to the advice part. with gaining weight I no longer fit into the majority of my clothes, most of which are fem items i’ve had since i was 13 or 14. i’ve been trying to subtly ask my parents for new clothing, framing it as gender affirming stuff since they’re supportive. they agree but believe I should do it slowly, not taking initiative to buy me stuff. I’m still a minor and i don’t have the money to fund this.

how do i tell them about all of this? how do i tell them that it’s a necessity /now/? they know about my ed in passing, but they’ve made jokes that it wasn’t really that bad since i wasn’t that poster child of thinness. how do i admit that i’ve gained from then? even more pressing, how do i avoid falling back into the trap of undereating out of financial necessity?

Hi anon! First of all, I’m very happy to hear you are in recovery. Seriously. I’m proud of you. That shit’s hard.

Secondly, you mentioned that a lot of your clothes are from you were 13-14? I think that’s enough of a reason to ask for something new. And the gender-affirming aspect makes it even more understandable.

Teens grow out of their old clothes all the time and I doubt they’d blink an eye. Something as simple as “A lot of these seriously don’t fit me anymore” or “I’ve grown out of my wardrobe and it’s actively uncomfortable” is really all you need.

Most importantly, you don’t have to ever mention your ED if you don’t want to. With like, anybody, ever. Sometimes it’s between you and yourself and maybe a therapist. Given the jokes they’ve made and how they invalidated the severity of your ED, I suggest you avoid telling your parents for now.

As to avoid undereating: I’m not a professional unfortunately, and can’t give you the best answer there. All I can really say is that I hope your parents would provide you the food you need and clothes you feel comfortable in. If they don’t, then you definitely want to look to someone far more qualified than me for help.

As in any mention of submission or slavery just pulls them right out of trance.

I've not seen any examples of videos or stories without it, though I may just be looking in the wrong places. Thanks if you answer!

One stops using those terms.

I personally think scripts are a good way to learn hypnotic language, but it's not a good idea to rely on them, partially because of this: if you don't rely on scripts, you're not bound by what the scriptwriters do. Then, to not use a given word, you just... don't use it.

Not using scripts is easier than you think! Just take a script you like and reduce it to point form, both important ideas to hit and any particular wordings you like. After you've done that a few times, you won't even need the point-form script. Once you can improvise a full session, your freedom as a hypnotist increases dramatically.

One note of clarification: is the 'tee in question merely averse to those words, or do they not want any power exchange at all? The former is very easy, just use different words. If they don't want any sort of submission, you can still work with that! Most recreational hypnosis (as opposed to erotic) doesn't have an inherent hierarchy. From an erotic standpoint, you can still do a lot with altering sensations, without veering into dominance territory.

you inspire me a lot artistically, and recently i’ve come to the conclusion that my biggest goal with my art journey is to make a comic. but, it seems so daunting! i was wondering if you had any tips or tricks for things you do to make comic-drawing easier, more coherent, etc. i hope that makes sense? i’m just, interested in your process. thank you :D

I'm honored you think of me as an inspiration and you'd reach out to me for advice! Cracks knuckles this will be Long

Alright so first off I want to address the "daunting" aspect: it doesn't need to be! It's only daunting if you feel it has to be good good from the get go, but it doesn't! I actually recommend fucking around for the first few chapters god knows I did if you couldn't tell just to stay relaxed and positive

From a drawing perspective:

do not confine yourself and express yourself freely. If this means your characters change art style in the middle of your series, so be it! Harvey and Cringefail look so different in part 1, they will probably look even more different in part 200 or whatever, who cares!!!

I also want to prepare you for this: making a comic means you will be drawing a LOT. a lot lot. a looot lot lot. I'm personally insane and can do it for up to 14 hours a day but i do not recommend it. This ties to my previous point, drawing a lot = improving faster, so of course your art style will change and that's fine, actually do not focus on art style at all just do what comes natural

Writing-wise:

keep your notes app at hand because you will get random ideas in the middle of the night. Write down what you got, but remember you do not need to be faithful to it, and if you're anything like me you'll change things up a million time until it feels just Right.

Re-read your comic often (not all of it necessarily but at least the last few parts) and you'll get a clearer idea of where it needs to go. I usually know there's some "milestones" ahead and I adjust the pacing according to how I feel it should go, inserting filler scenes that will still be significant for character growth or for establishing some kind of element you might want to address later

For ideas: brainstorm, talk to the wall if you don't have a friend or s/o to torture, talk in your car

Dude gave me his number, I don't want it, I will see him at work all the time he works in my building, is it nicer to just never text or should I text him being like thank you but no thank you?

I'm confused af we've barely barely even spoken like, I feel like he should have at least had a couple conversations with me first to see if we vibe and then move onto numbers like sir what the hell am I supposed to do now, I don't wanna be rude and I don't want work to be awkward and now I'm so stressed I feel sick

Hi sorry, I don't always have wifi so I hope this answer still comes as urgent. If you don't feel like texting him than don't. You have no obligations to him. Perhaps better tell him in person that you don't really know him and prefer to have conversations in real talk if he says something along the line as "if we text we can get to know each other" i know it might feel like being rude but it is just you setting your boundaries with what you feel comfortable about and not. If he doesn't understand it, than that is his problem and his loss as you dodged a bullet there.

Just do what you want to do. If you don't want to text him, don't but let him know why it helps him understand more than just ghosting him.