#adhd anon

mirrorball anon

Hi

Um so

One of the people I used to call my friend just

left tumblr

blocked everyone on everything despite saying the people who had other ways to reach out could

and they just

disappeared

and it just feels like this is going to be a cycle in my life forever that I won’t escape

Everyone always leaves

Always.

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Hi <3

I'm so sorry. This absolutely sucks and it's so hard not to take personally. I'm not sure how much I can say to make you feel better because the truth is, you absolutely are right to be upset. But I do know that there are people who care <3 And I'm here to vent to <3

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trans guy anon

It's Trans Guy anon (sorry if you don't remember)

I thought about your advice a whole lot and I tried coming out to her again, she did not take it well at all. I told her, and she said "Well, you know how it is now a days, you could be anything, like a they or something. But you are you, and it's your body and your choice," which I thought, hey, not bad, right?

WRONG

I went onto Libby to read (we share an account) and saw a book that was basically about "how to convince my daughter she's not a boy" so that sucked. Then I go to sleep, and at 2 AM she came into my room and woke me up, just to tell me "I don't believe you, that's not a real thing," ( summarised). She also searched all of my devices, read all my texts, searched my search history, deleted all my apps, and blocked anyone who has been respecting my pronouns/sexuality at all. No idea why haha.

I haven't been at home lately sincr I had a friends sleepover birthday party, a band trip (3 days), then a dance trip (2 nights), then another sleepover, but when I went on her computer she had 'conversion therapy/counselling' in a search tab so I might be a little screwed?

I don't know. But in good news, I did my band test, I play tenor saxophone, which I got 27/28 on, teacher said I needed to play louder though, and I finished a whole painting 4 weeks early.

Sorry to be a bother, I just needed to vent, and I'm feeling kind of guilty because when I found out she searched my contacts and read my texts, I just felt oddly violated.

Hope you're doing well though!!

Hi <3

Wow, that's awful and you definitely have a right to feel violated. I think right now you need to focus on your safety, especially with what your mom has been searching. Do you have safe adults you can talk to about this and share this info with? Conversion therapy can be dangerous, so it's important to put your safety first by finding supportive people to protect you <3

Sending you so much luck and love!

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social anxiety anon

I'm 20 years old and social anxiety has taken over 90% of my life. Does it ever go away? I'm so tired of not living because of it. I want to do so many things in life and this is always stopping me from doing so. I'm such a dreamer and all I want to do it at least try you know? Or believe that I can do it, but this thing is like the monsters under my pillow murmuring every night that I can't, that I will always be it's prisoner.

Hi!

It CAN go away, or at least be coped with, and I definitely believe in you and know that you can do it! But I think the thing is, anxiety is something that needs treatment, and a lot of times, you need help to get that treatment! Do you have the ability to go to therapy or talk to a doctor about this? There's no shame in asking for help, and treatment can make SUCH a huge difference (I know from firsthand experience <3)

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first job anon

Hi Cas! First job anon again.

I just wanted to tell you I almost cried reading your response to my first ask. You're genuinely an amazing person, and what you said made me feel so good. Thank you so much for your words.

In other news, today I was supposed to go to an induction course, but I forgot my identification. Can you believe it? Now I have to wait until next Tuesday to take it online, and then my first day will be Wednesday. Not even my first day and I already fucked up lmao. But it made me feel better remembering what you said. Was it absolutely stupid that I forgot my freaking identification, for god's sake? Yes, absolutely. But there is a solution. Do I have to wait two more days than expected to start the job? Also yes, but there's nothing else I can do.

And honestly, I'm happy that I'm at a point in life where I'm working because I want to gain experience, for my career and for life, not because I have to. I feel more at peace knowing I’m doing this because I want to, and I'm extremely lucky to be in that position.

Hope you have an amazing day or night, and thank you again for being so wonderful♡ I hope you know you genuinely help so many people. It means the world.

Hi!

This is such a great way to look at it! Mistakes happen, and there's a solution, so no reason to beat yourself up too much. I'm so glad you're being kind to yourself and staying positive and excited about getting experience. How did your first day go???

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adhd anon

hii can i vent? so i think i have adhd, even my therapist thinks that but my parents doesn’t believe in those stuff and mocked me when i asked them to get it checked. im so tired of feeling like a disappointment because i cant remember to do stuff, my grandparents joke about me being an idiot for it but im really trying! its so devastating not being able to tell anyone what is the reason behind it because im not diagnosed so im probably stupid and just making excuses and no adults believes me because i used to be a gifted kid so they think im smart and just being lazy and mean. like im incapable of forgetting and doing it on purpose! they laugh in my face too. im so tired of this i genuinely dont know what to do and how to deal with it, im trying my best but its never enough for anyone

thank you for listening, sorry to bother you

hope you’re having a great week<3

Hi!

I'm so sorry your parents aren't being supportive. Remember, though, you ARENT stupid or lazy or making excuses. Just because your brain works differently doesn't mean you're less than. You ARE trying your best, and I am so proud of you for getting this far. As someone who didn't get a diagnosis until an adult, I know it's NOT easy.

Have you tried looking up ways to help with ADHD? You shouldn't have to do the work by yourself, but maybe it'll help a bit. Try working WITH your brain instead of against it, you know?