#actually-autistic

a flag that combined the lycaogenos and autigender flags (with the lycaogenos flag flipped upside down because otherwise it comes out all grey) by laying them overtop of eachother and then merging them, then playing with the colors a bit to get them to work better.

A flag for werewolfkin who are also autistic >:)

The second version should work as a header for your tumblr blog without needing to be adjusted.

[ID: Two versions of the same flag, which has five stripes of: purple, green, pale yellow, yellow-orange, and red-orange. The first version is square-shaped, the second is wider. End ID.]

This flag is specifically for werewolf kin who are also autistic, *not* people who are just autistic and like werewolves. This is a flag for autistic werewolves, not autistic werewolf fans lol.

And then just kept defending him by saying his ADHD makes it okay when autistic people were calling him out so he called them babies and did nothing but ignore and insult them?

Like, newsflash, Millionaire Trump supporter fans, "reclaiming" a slur does not give you the right to use that slur as a damn slur. It means you can call yourself by it. That's what reclamation is. Using it as a self-identifier. It doesn't fucking mean turning around and using it as the exact same kind of weapon that made it a slur in the first fucking place.

And no, you do not get to fucking call people the R slur because you have ADHD.

ADHD and autism overlap in many ways, but if you only have ADHD, then, no, you do not face all the shit autistic people do. You do not get to "reclaim" a slur that's literally not about you. Do not pretend otherwise.

Yes, people who only have ADHD face ableism, of course they do, because we live in a shitty ableist society, but they do not face the same degree or amount as people who are autistic, or even people who are autistic and have ADHD and other learning disabilities. If you only have ADHD, you do not get to fucking talk about how the R slur isn't really a slur and isn't really bad and it's okay to literally use it as a slur. Just shut the fuck up. I don't want to fucking hear it.

Not all neurodiversities are treated the same way by our shitty fucking society. Just because you have ADHD does not give you a free pass to throw around ableist slurs under the guise of "reclaiming" them when you literally don't even fucking know what reclaiming a slur even means.

if you have any spare change or coins lying around, please be generous and give them to your local autistic charity

Communication therapy is a good thing. The hard part is balancing your ideas of what is encouraging the person vs what they actually find encouraging. Some things that may seem like they should be encouragement are actually painful to some people. 

My goto example - offering Baby a reward for doing what you want when she doesn’t understand how to do it is just torture. That candy that she can’t have is all she is thinking about, not your instructions on how to do the task.

She learned to read and write because she wanted to talk to me. She still talks in her own language (based on simple baby talk), but she signs as she does.

There is no single motivation trick - some people respond well to the reward system.

Once you figure out what they respond well to (including remaining happy during the therapy) then go for teaching whatever communication skill they are capable of.

This is an old ask (Feb 6) but I hung onto it because it would be an interesting thing to answer in detail. If it weren’t so general. One of the problems I have with answering asks is I need specific questions. I am REALLY bad at “talk about topic X” even when ‘topic X’ is something I really have a lot to say about. 

That said - I will make an effort to say some stuff that might be of interest.

I am non-verbal all the time. It isn’t a stress reaction, it’s an inability to think in words, so I need to work hard to make words, then again to figure out how to make the words into mouth noises. My brain does not remember the steps it used to do that the last time I needed to do it, so I have to figure it out each time. It is not something I want to spend my brain power on, so I don’t do it. Not to mention the result is something less than optimal (”sounds like a drunk little girl with a speech impediment trying to speak a language she doesn’t know” was one of the nicer things people have said of me trying to talk).

On the hearing side - y’all sound like a bunch of drunk people with speech impediments trying to speak languages I don’t know. If you talk slowly and carefully and don’t speak too loud and make short sentences and wait between them I might be able to figure out what you are saying. BUT - if you have many of those short sentences in a row I will have spent so much effort decoding them that the context is lost and it is like reading fragments of stories written thousands of years ago without the context they were written in. Sentences that make sense linguistically but have no usable content.

For me the world is sounds and colors and actions and smells and feels and feelings. When I think a thing I experience it. 

Blueberry is a taste, a color (not really blue, kind of purplish-blue, except when perfectly ripe, but slightly whitish since they have a kind of white ‘dusting’ on them when you pick them), and a label image from some biscuit mix my Mom always used when I was a kid. It’s a giggly happy thought because Mom made blueberry muffins and I will get to eat them and muffins are good food because they don’t need chewing, just a little juice to wash them down.

Yup - that whole thing. Because I’m not thinking it as a set of words, I’m just feeling it all at once.

I have to say blueberry? That is MUCH harder. First I have to figure out the context of what is wanted - color? taste? (it’s nice that I picked an easy example with only two major features, huh :) ) How to turn a thinking of the color of blueberry, which I already said varies based on a few things, into a word or words. Which words? Well, I could look for one  that is on a color spectrum chart, or maybe RGB values but those are harder to say, so probably one of the default words people use for colors. Hm- yeah, that color there, the one sortof blue - oh yeah - it’s in a whole bunch of colors called blue, Okay, Blue it is. Now say it. 

Say it? What, thinking it isn’t enough?

Dig into memory for how to make Blue come from mouth. Not there. The B sound is! Start from that. Then add the ell sound, but try to make it smooth. Darn, you’re slurring! Too bad, we don’t have time to make it perfect. The u is easy, just kind of grunt. No, not like that! Too late. Drop the e, it’s usually not said anyway.

I said Blue! It probably sounded like bluh or blurg or something like the sound you make when food is coming out the wrong way, but I said it.

I’m always happy to answer asks - this was not intended to make light of the anon’s question, it’s just one of the many ways I could think to answer it.