#ace rant

Yes this is an excuse to introduce Kir Titov to the internet, but it’s still true for any Ace ship. If Ace could listen to Sweet by Cigarettes After Sex for the rest of his life, he could. He’s so in love with whoever this song is about to him, and I’m gonna use my Ace oc, Kir, as an example.

They are so clearly in love to everyone, and they both know this. They know. They know but they don’t say it. Ace is the type of guy to take a bullet for someone before they even know he genuinely likes them. He would gladly break his own heart for someone.

Sure, the love Kir and Ace seem to have for each other is mostly physical, like how the nudity (showering) and more physically intimate (lingerie) aspects of Sweet portrays, but it’s so much deeper than that, hence the negation of everything physical—the person’s happiness (smile) and soul (eyes).

Ace Trappola is so absolutely in love yet he doesn’t say it. It’s like he’s trying to get the other person to see it for themselves because he’s scared to say it first. He knows they love him but he needs more than that. He needs them to show him before he can admit it too.

He was giving me the usual about "having a duty" to reproduce, and I hit him with "Do angels have sex in heaven"

"What!?"

I repeated. "Do angels have sex in heaven?"

"No! of course not! Why would you even try to ask that"

"Then why are you trying to claim acting like that is anything less than divine?"

That was the most beautiful shutdown of that line of inquiry I've ever had in my life.

If you NEED someone’s sexuality stated in that specific term we only now use (and largely in the west), you don't stand with us (looking at you, acephobes).

If you NEED specific characters to have sex, you don't stand with us--referring to how objectively aspec characters are mostly just sexual in their tags and fanart.

Can they have sex? Obvi-fucking-ly. But when there's contextual evidence that they're aspec, what the actual fuck, why are they constantly fucking!?

Ace people deserve as much representation as anyone else in fandom spaces, sex is not the be-all, end-all of adulthood or relationships and it's immature to see it as such. Nonsexual intimacy is real and just as legitimate; even more valid when an arguably canonically ace character is present.

And porn--yes porn, because smut is just porn with words--being so, SO prevalent in fandom is also an issue: there are MANY minors in fandom and no, "we're not all responsible for taking care of the kids," but we sure as fuck have a role in it. When there's 90% smut, laden with tags like non-con, dead dove, incest, sex-pollen/heat/sex curse (noncon means to sex) etc, that--and get this--NORMALIZES that shit. If you think it doesn't, that's like saying we haven't all been conditioned to feel that skinny-ness is normal and fat-ness is abnormal by the media; that heteronormativity and heterosexuality hasn't been normalised to us based off what we consumed whilst younger.

Can ace characters and other characters still fuck? Where the hell did I say that's not allowed whatsoever. Where, in the fuck, did I declare smut unacceptable. Nowhere. That's where.

This is what I'm saying: ace characters deserve to be ace in fandom, ace people by extension deserve that representation and not that feeling of alienation because they identified with a character but find nothing but smut.

What I'm saying is not everything has to be about sex! Have your horny and write your horny, but it's ludicrous for SO MUCH of fandom to be revolving around sex, especially when you can hardly find any non-sexual story about a certain character/ship!

What’s more, it’s fucking acephobic for there to be nothing but objective allosexuality!

And save the "do it yourself," I fucking am and maybe I'd like to just be able to read some good non-sex-revolving stories for once.

This is for all the aces and baby aces: you're not wrong for not feeling the very, very many sex tags, nor are you wrong for interpreting the character(s) as ace. And neither are you not-ace for enjoying the sexy tags or stories. Don’t let anyone force you out of a place you enjoy, especially if it’s an escape for you like so many find with fandom.

There’s this guy (let’s call him Stu) and I have chatted a bit with him because we are both in a musical together but beyond that we don’t really know each other. A friend of a friend. Stu is a GORGEOUS HUMAN BEING, not in a model sort of way, but just everything about him is just beautiful. His facial expressions, his hair, his glasses, his vibe, his humor, his EVERYTHING.

I love Stu so much and feel so attracted to him (platonically) and I don’t think I’ve felt like that about anyone ever. I want to talk to him but he will see me as creepy and weird, and I don’t want to be his friend because I wouldn’t be able to compose myself around him. I have no idea what to do.

I am so fucking pissed by how people are starting to write ace. And I don't mean that in the: omg I saw one fic I didn't agree with so now I'm making it everyone else's problem

I mean that the version of ace that the fandom has managed to pop out of thin air at this point had absolutely no correlation to canon ace.

And like I get it. sticking to Canon is hard and annoying, whatever. But how badly do you have to not understand a character to manage to rewrite another one completely??????

Like at this point it's just plain hate. And hey! You can do that! But at this point I'm begging people to just a create a whole new tag for that because tell me why I go to his tag to try and find SOMETHING related to him and all I find is slander slander and more slander or some basic ass y/n stuff.