#ace joy

asexual joy / ace joy

More seriously yeah it's always about missing out on X Y Z and not like, how freeing it can be to realise you don't have to force yourself to do things you don't want. That's a bit personal but like, while I struggled to come to terms with being aro, I had the realisation that - I've had my own room since I was like 12, and I really love that, having a space that is entirely my own, mine to live in and decorate, that other people have to be explicitly invited to before they come in, where I can do whatever I want, and the general practice is that once you date someone you sleep in the same bed and share the same bedroom, which sounds atrocious if it's not temporary. I can't imagine not having my own dedicated space and I know it's small but being aro just frees me from that stress, and that just made it all better when I was struggling with it. There's all the loss and the difference, yes, but there's also the joy and the freedom, and every time I see people being aspec and happy it warms my heart. That was for the uh aspec positivity, a tangible little thing I personally love, since yeah feeling down about it gets depressing real quick. Good day to you!

A) I love you, 100% I will send you mushrooms and soup

B) you’re so correct and it’s so true !!! It’s so genuinely freeing to realize you don’t have to keep forcing yourself to be uncomfortable.

Tbh the best analogy I have is like realizing you don’t have to keep watering a plastic plant. Those background programs running in your brain telling you to keep putting energy into trying to get this plant to thrive and forcing yourself to see signs of growth gets to turn off, and you realize how much energy you’ve been putting into an outcome that was never going to happen. And that sense of responsibility falls away to the realization of “well, what do I do now.”

inspired by: @this-is-aromantic-joy @this-is-aroace-joy @this-is-queer-joy @this-is-trans-joy etc (I can untag if asked)