this pride month i'm giving a shoutout to everyone who falls somewhere outside of the cis/trans binary, for whatever reason.
personally, i find it hard to confidently call myself cis or trans because of my experiences as a headmate in a plural system. i'm a genderqueer woman in a body assigned female, a body which my headmates have so beautifully sculpted with testosterone, a body which we hope to someday change even more with surgery. and i approve of all of this! i love the ways HRT changed my body, and i want to medically transition even more, but i'm still a woman who was told to be a woman from the start. i'm a woman sharing my body with a ton of transmasculine and transneutral headmates, and i'm cheering them on and playing an active role in our transition. i've transitioned and i will continue to transition, and that doesn't change that i'm a woman. my womanhood is just queer.
i know it's confusing when you don't fit neatly into one box or another. i understand the pressure to categorize yourself. but if you can't be categorized, there's nothing wrong with that. yeah it's sappy but you really just gotta be you, you don't have to pick a side.
