#404gender

what a funky flag /pos

20. 404gender

404gender - When gender can’t be described or located due to neurodivergence; or a 404 numbergender.

[ID: A flag with eleven vertical stripes, all the same size. The colors are darker at the edges and lighter moving towards the middle; the fourth, sixth, and eighth stripes are darker than the ones next to them. The third, fifth, seventh, and ninth stripes are all the same darkness. The colors are, from left to right, dark gray, gray, light gray, light washed-out red, light gray, light washed-out blue, light gray, light washed-out red, light gray, gray, and dark gray. END ID]

404genvarec: A term for those who collect all genders named 404gender; a 404gender Varecollector term

The colors were inspired by the (as of now) only 404gender flag

I don't know what gender is and i would like some help figuring mine out.

The way i experience these things is kind of weird. I didn't really have an extraordinary gender experience as a child. I was somewhat happy being afab, but always played the dad in family games with other kids my age lol

However, in puberty, I felt somewhat disconnected from being a girl and identified as demigirl when exploring my gender identity. Later on i thought i was nonbinary/genderfluid and used any pronouns, but the pipeline led me to he/him only.. Then all of a sudden i thought i was a cis girl again, she/her only... Ahhhh!!!! Now i use she/he because its what i prefer? Idk

The way i experience gender is kind of like this:

Fluctuating in intensity, changing gender expression, not strongly connected to only masculinity or femininity, but somehow vaguely both at the same time?

Some days i want to dress femininely and others i love confusing people by making them think I'm amab. Gender euphoria, for real.

My gender is like a 404 message. I would appreciate all the help you can give.

-V

I just want to start out by saying that you are absolutely not alone in your experience! My own experience started out really similarly. I also want to say that it isn't a race! You can take as much time to figure out your identity as you need. You don't even *need* to figure it all out if you're happy being unlabeled. If you want a broad, overarching label, queer or genderqueer are there for you!

There are a few microlabels that come to mind though!

404gender is a gender! It is exclusive to neurodivergent people but it means a gender that cannot be described or located.

Ambonec is another one that comes to mind! Ambonec is a gender that is male, female, and neither all at once. You can have fluctuating feelings within it, leaning one way or another depending on the day. That's how I am!

There's also genderflux, genderfluid, and genderpunk/genderfuck, which you could look into!

I can't think of any more off the top of my head but I wish you luck questioning!