#30 things

which means i’ve had this exact tumblr account for literally half of my life lol embarrassing

Because I am my mother(Taylor Swift)’s daughter, I decided to take a page from her book and share 30 things I’ve learned in my 30 years of life so far:

It’s the people, it’s the people, IT’S THE PEOPLE. In anything you do, any space you inhabit, the people around you are what actually matters, not the dogma or the process or whatever. Act accordingly. 

Some things can go to the group chat instead of out on the internet.

Listening without trying to fix things is an important skill, especially when talking to yourself. 

Therapy is worth the money. 

Not everything that is great or meant for you is meant to last forever. Embrace ephemera.

You really can find everything you need on NOT Amazon, it just takes a little more work. Generally the work is worth it. 

Different things work for different people, you don’t need to apply whats best for someone else to yourself and you definitely don’t get to decide that what’s right for you is how everyone should be living. 

I read so much more after embracing audiobooks and 2x speed. 

Liking things is so much cooler and more fun than hating things.

WEAR SUNSCREEN EVEN WHEN YOU DONT THINK YOU NEED IT.

The best way to live in community is with a soft front and a strong back. 

Getting outside and moving my body actually does make me feel better, damn it.

Take the Uber sometimes. Don’t be a hero.

You can’t always believe everything you read on the internet. 

Relatedly, you don’t always have to believe the opinions of people on the internet about you or the things you care about. You don’t always have to give the same weight to the things internet people say as you would to people who know you. 

Feelings need to be felt. 

Things you enjoy doing are worth doing even if you aren’t “good” at them. 

I’ve learned how to be alone with myself without descending into crippling loneliness immediately #justextrovertthings

Check the weather before you leave the house.

Certainty isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. The vulnerability that comes from uncertainty is where connection happens. 

It’s actually totally fine to eat the same thing every day if you are getting the fuel you need and you like how it tastes. Not everyone has to be a chef.

Opinions are not facts. 

You’ll enjoy life so much more if you just let yourself have a little treat every day. 

You can have fantastic, budget-friendly European vacations if you simply don’t care about the quality of where you sleep. (aka I’ve slept on a lot of overnight buses and in the most basic BnBs)

Nine times out of ten, it’s not personal. People are thinking more about themselves than they are ever thinking about you when making the decision to do or say something. 

There are so many things out of my control. Wisdom is realizing what I can control, and satisfaction comes from concentrating my effort there and letting go of the rest. 

There *are* good men out there, they are just exceptionally hard to find. Very few of them are single though. 

The goal of life is not to be a “good” person, it’s to be a person who does good and acknowledges and apologizes and improves when they’ve done something bad. 

Nobody notices or cares if you wear the same shirt two or three days in a row when you work over Zoom. Save those laundry coins. 

I was tagged by @goodtobealunatic Somehow you wind up being the last blog in my notifications most nights when I'm checking my notifications. And I get to you and think !!friend!!. Which, might be a bit strange because I don't think we've actually ever talked. But, I dunno, your blog is a happy place for me. (:

Rules: Answer these 30 questions then tag 20 people you wanna get to know better.

1. Name/Nickname: Joi

2. Gender: I think someone handed me one, but I dropped it and it rolled under the fridge.

3. Star Sign: Capricorn

4. Height: 5’4” (with shoes on)

5. Time: 3:57am

6. Birthday: 12/27

7. Favorite Band: Imagine Dragons (but I don't like their recent releases... sigh)

8. Favorite Solo Artist: Hmm, I dunno

9. Song currently stuck in your head: Asking the Guard from the Tales from the Loop Soundtrack

10. Last movie watched: Greatest Showman

11. Last show watched: Some old episode of Shark Week. 2013, I think?

12. When I created this blog: March 2013? I think. I'm too lazy to look it up. But I didn't use it for a year.

13. What I post: Stuff about me and my life, cute/fluffy things, pretty places, encouragement, nerdy stuff, ocean life, dinosaurs, artwork, various fandoms... My blog is a mess and it is me.

14. Last thing I googled: "Cincinnati Health Dept Complaints"

15. Other blogs of yours: My good omens blog is @sushiandstarlight

16. Following: 691

17. Do you get asks?: Every great once and a while

18. Why you chose your URL: It fit better than the one I had originally

19. Lucky number: Not lucky, but I love the number 3

20. Followers: 1,147

21. Average hours of sleep: 6

22. Play any instruments: Nope, sadly

23. What’re you wearing: Purple halloween pusheen hoodie, grey fuzzy pants with stars, mis-matched fuzzy socks

24. Dream job: I don't dream of working

25. Favorite food: Maryland steamed crabs, most anything potato related

26. Nationality: American

27. Favorite song: Wow yeah I can't pick just one lol

28. Last song you listened to: Climbing the Tower from the Tales from the Loop Soundtrack

29. Last book you read: I read a little bit more of Christpher Eccleston's book I Love the Bones of You

30. 3 fictional universes you’d love to live in: Doctor Who, Star Trek, Marvel (but Wonder Woman specific... I just wanna live on Themyscira)

rules: answer 30 questions and tag 20 blogs you are contractually obligated to know better.

name/nickname: Cil

2. gender: she/they

3. star sign: Aquarius ♒️

4. height: 5′2″ ✨

5.time: 8:34 pm

6.birthday: January 31st

7.favorite bands/groups: at the moment?: Florence and the machine , MCR , Bastille

8.favorite solo artists: does Gerard way count ?!

9.song stuck in my head: a line without a hook Ricky Montgomery 🪝

10. last movie: Wonder Woman 84

11. Last show: Fresh prince of bel-air

12 . when did i create this blog: I cannot remember but I started using it again a few months ago ~ I lost my original blog

13. what do i post: Poetry and Destiel

14. last thing googled: Fast car Tracy Chapman lyrics

15. other blogs: noo just this mess hehe !

16. do i get asks: I wish I did 😅

17. why i chose my url: because I love Castiel and his little bee slippers 🐝

18. following: 1000+ I gotta go through and see who’s active ~

19. followers: 391 🥺✨

20. average hours of sleep: hahaha 🤣

21. lucky number:28👀

22. Instruments: none 😭

23. what am i wearing: boxers , comic book Wonder Woman tank top ❤️☺️

24. dream job: Writer ~ or photographer

25. dream trip: New York✨, Japan 🇯🇵

26. favorite food: Veggie burger 🍔

27. nationality: American ? Oof

28. favorite song: Dasher by Gerard way

29. last book read: War of the foxes 🦊

30. top three fictional universes i’d like to live in: Pokémon , Star Wars , kingdom hearts

No pressure ✨✨✨✨ @magicalmoose , @my-favourite-hellatus , @you-changedmedean , @fand0mf0rl1fe , @withclawsandsympathy , @hxspn

I’ve had this tumblr for almost 10 years, and just spent the last 4 hour purging it of embarrassing things. Now what? Now it’s time to put new embarrassing things on it. I know no one cares at all and no one reads this (95% of my followers are porn bots) but I found this survey thing when I was cleaning my account out. I figure I might as well put in something cringy for me to appreciate when I delete everything in another ten years. I originally did this across 30 days, but I’m bored so I’m just going to bang it out. So here we go!

As someone that has struggled with an eating disorder and body dysmorphia for a significant part of my life, this quote really really hit home.  1989 was actually a really difficult era for me to watch Taylor on because she was so so so thin. I loved the music but I was in such a dark place and seeing Taylor and all of her VS model friends with similarly small frames was HARD.

Thank you, @taylorswift for bringing visibility to body acceptance and positivity along with so many other important issues.