Thursday, January 27, 2022
B”H B”H B”H we had the ultrasound today and everything is looking good KA”H! Baby’s hand looked like it was waving. It’s measuring on track with my default due date, so we’re going with that one now even though I know that my cycle would’ve been longer than 28 days. Which means that I’ll already be 12 weeks on Sunday!
Technically we were planning to tell immediate family around 12 weeks, but I’m feeling a bit weird about it. Shortly before I got pregnant, I got a few comments from my mom that made it evident she didn’t think it was a good time for me to be pregnant (mind you, she had no idea whatsoever what our plans were in that regard upon saying these things). I know she had only good intentions, and I know she’ll be happy when she hears about the baby even if she remains concerned about the timing, but it kind of sucked the joy out of the idea of telling her about the pregnancy. That said, if not at 12 weeks then I don’t really know when, if ever, those feelings might change for me. And since both our parents were already planning to travel in for my son’s upshernish in September, it’s probably better they know sooner rather than later that there’ll also be a new baby in mid-August IY”H. Oh, and since my MIL started shopping for my son’s birthday already 8 months in advance, she should probably get a heads up not to spend her entire gift budget on him. 🤦🏻♀️
The other factor is that since neither set of parents has a visit planned anytime soon, the only person we have the opportunity to tell in person (unless we wait indefinitely to tell people) is my sister. She already has plans to visit us this Sunday (which we can’t push off because she’s coming davka to babysit while my husband and I check out a school open house), which means based on past precedent she probably won’t come again until I’m 14-15 weeks or so. And I don’t want to tell her virtually when she’s literally in the same city. Meaning it’s kind of now or not for a while at this point, and I’m not really feeling now but I’m also not into the idea of having the timing dependent on whenever she next decides to visit (of course, from her perspective, having no particular hurry to do so). :/
