just want to PSA: if I call someone a fujoshi or a fudanshi (male version of fujoshi), it's a compliment. because I am a fujoshi. I grew up consuming mlm media, because that's basically what BL and yaoi are (just the latter is definitely NSFW), and learnt and explored my sexuality through that. born and growing up in a country where LGBTQ+ is a taboo, BL and GL are our only gateway to simply know loving same sex is possible.
There are always bad apples in any group, but the only people who give bad connotations to the terms are Westerners who don't even understand what they mean and know the situation on LGBTQ+ rights in Asia and how it has progressed over the years. So, no you're very wrong if you think fujoshis are only straight women "fetishizing" (yikes) mlm.