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(Important note- UK here, so “college” means a lower level of education than the more university-like American “college”).

Undiagnosed, unmedicated, don’t know how I cope as it is. Not looking for medical advice, nor seeking empathy really either, more like just straight-to-the-point “how do I handle this interaction?!” advice from those who have had similar/have any ideas to contribute.

Just got a form for my college application... I'm feeling "😬" at Question 2 especially, which is:

"Please give your opinion of the applicant’s ability to cope with meeting deadlines, organising workloads and related pressures? (please use the reverse of this form if necessary)".

Another is "Please describe the applicant’s personal qualities, eg politeness, ability to follow instructions, respectful of others, etc", but that doesn't feel nearly as intimidating. I'd post a screenshot of the form if I could. (when i made this post on the adhd subreddit, they don't even let you post anything non-text. annoying. cringe.)

I would have to get someone to lie about the way I work in order to fill this out. My friends and partner don’t see how I work- because they don’t ever see me in that context?- and I don’t have an employer/colleagues I can use as a reference. I don’t know anybody else suitable.

I first went to college as a teen about 13 years ago, tried applying to college in 2023 as an adult (I was all set to start, then something big came up in my personal life and I decided to not carry on with starting the course that time.) and neither times I had to do something like this.

It feels like the conundrum of “do I reveal my disability at work or do I keep it quiet?” all over again. It’s a specific stress which NTs never even consider.

!Needless to say I wouldn't be trying college again if I wasn't ready, that's not the problem. I'm in control of myself and my mental health enough to learn, despite learning disability- it's just this form itself I'm having trouble with!