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we are fucked

i mentioned the possibility of this happening in my last post but i had no idea it would be this bad. we are being put in a desperate situation because of the incompetency of the educational system and we will be evicted once this financial aid gets taken away. we are students living off of one disability income and student aid. basically what happened was we went to the financial aid office at my wife’s college and asked REPEATEDLY whether or not it would be okay for her to drop a class which they assured her time and time again that there would be no problem doing so. after she had already dropped it they suddenly say it’s a problem and that she MIGHT owe back money that already has gone to rent and bills. we will have no way to pay our rent if and WHEN the aid gets taken away. i am unable to get a job without her SSI being taken away. we have no support from family or anyone local to help us through this situation so i have to turn to you guys again. we need 1016.00 within 45 days or we will have no means of living. im trying to get back into school but that’s a long process that is complicated now that im married. literally days after our wedding and have to deal with all of this.

if you want to be rude, just don’t. this really is no fault of our own because we had talked to several people at the college who assured us it would be fine without explaining anything about having to owe back money and giving misinformation after misinformation, which now is somehow our fault and no one will listen to anything we have to say after spending all day at the college. WE WOULD DO ANYTHING EVEN PAY SOMEONE BACK THE MONEY if her aid wasn’t taken away we would be able to pay back this amount, but they are saying it needs to be paid within 45 days which wouldn’t be enough time.

im desperate for this to be over with. we were hoping to be financially stable finally until this happened and as a gay couple no one wants to help or deal with us. we’re basically cornered. let me know if i can do ANYTHING, and absolutely anything would help to get out of this debt even the change you have leftover in your account. i can write, help with homework, i can do pretty much anything.

Please help if you can! Republicans are actively suppressing the Native American vote. Their voices should be heard in North Dakota.

wouldn’t it still be accurate to say that nonbinary people have transitioned from their assigned gender identity to a different one? unless they were assigned nonbinary at birth and have always identified as such?

Many more women dressed as men to fight.

Long before female nurses were officially considered to be a part of the military, they were already on the battlefield. They merely didn’t get written into official reports because they were “invisible women”, “not supposed to be there”. Usually they would be local women running a makeshift care center out of their homes.

Movies involving ancient societies? Guess how many had female fighters?

Spies? Mostly female. Yeah, only the men were caught, usually (because nobody suspected the servant woman), but historians believe most cases had more women spies than men. Most cases meaning across time and continents.

Giving me a movie on samurai? Women were trained as well to avoid being captured and raped, and often fought just as hard as men. One woman notably survived multiple battles, and became a hero alongside her sisters after taking out 7 men before dying in her last fight (usually in sword fighting you’d be lucky to take out 2 enemy soldiers. 7 is fucking insane, but because she was a woman it was shoved under the records how the lord managed to survive).

Women have ALWAYS been on battlefields. Women have an intense history in driving victories and losses alike. They were supply runners, fighters, spies, assassins, prostitutes (look up how prostitutes essentially ran the western world, or even the social status of harem members. They literally fucking ruled), even underground activists.

during the standardized test, we were allowed to keep a post-test book on our desk. i diligently got started on part 1: english. at the time, all of the answers went on the same sheet, but all of the questions were in different booklets. so i finish all my english questions, read in my extra time, and then it’s part 2: math.

i realize i have answered all of my english questions on the math portion of the answer sheet. at first, annoyed but undeterred, i’m like. okay great i gotta erase every bubble. but i get bored around question 5 of doing this because… like… harry potter is sitting on my desk and i could just give them the wrong answers. so i answer maybe 10 whole questions in the math portion, copy the english answers over to where they actually belong, and then crack open the book and call it a day.

i obviously failed. this is the real life, not a movie. my parents were called in. i had scored in the lowest percentile. i was bad at math. i was concerningly bad at math. i could have done better just guessing than how i did with the english answers. 

if this was just a funny story, someone would ask me “why did you do so badly when you usually get fairly average grades” and i would have said “i wanted to read harry potter, not take this stupid test.” but it’s the real life, and nobody asked. instead, i was branded stupid and bad at math. i got placed in a lower math than i needed to be in; got bored, stopped paying attention. knew i was in the “worst at math” group, started saying “i’m bad at math” and 100% stopped trying because the further i fell behind, the worse i got. through the rest of my academic career - until senior year in high school, i never got above a c on a math test, because i was “just bad” at math.

i had undiagnosed adhd. the only reason i know now i have adhd is because at 22 years old, i finally went to a therapist, who effectively said, “are you kidding me you have the most obvious case of attention deficit i’ve ever seen.”

but nobody had been looking. my one test grade had given teachers permission to not look, because, obviously, i was bad at math. the one time i got 100% on a math test - that one time in senior year - i remember my math teacher looking at it and saying “it’s clear that if you just focused, you could do the work.”

in college i’d take a math class and i actually “just focused” for the first time in my life - meaning i treated math as a challenge, but one i could overcome with the skills i’d learned all on my own, through constant work and practice. i got the highest grade in my class. i still think i’m bad at math. 

Kid: Pirates are good! I wanna be a pirate!

Student: Pirates are actually bad because they steal things and break the law

Expert: Pirates are nuanced because many of them were disaffected sailors and escaped slaves only doing what they had to do to survive in a harsh society