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Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

It also references another book I strongly recommend: "Technofeudalism."

Transfeminism, as it's very nature, is a synthesis of both transgender studies and feminism, the fact that not every feminist had correct opinions about transfems all of the time cannot distract us from critically analyzing their better work in identifying and fighting misogyny.

If you like seeing high quality transfeminist analysis like this, you know what to do:

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the whole point of fantasy porn is that it is The Fantasy. it is The Kink Scene Played Straight. two people roleplaying spanking in their sex room may be getting off on it, but they're not getting off on the fact they're getting off, they're getting off on the idea that they aren't. the spankee must insist to himself and to his partner that this sucks, actually, because that is the point of the act!

vester is not willfully engaging in kink, because the kink exists outside of him, the kink is for us, the observers. if he gets off on it, then he's pretending, putting yet another layer of abstraction between true vulnerability and the observer. and we, as observers, want to be as close to the true, sincere vulnerability as possible without engaging in it directly ourselves. we don't want to get actually spanked in real life for doing something actually wrong because we're adults and that's not how we solve problems. but we'd like to observe the Fantasy where that's true. experience it secondhand.

dream sharing 💛 emy should’ve known she wasn’t going to win this round.

this book is out now!!! it's a short read, less than 200 pages, and it's SO good. i literally had to pause halfway through just to send the author a message about how much i liked it. definitely leans more utopian than scientific, but that makes sense given the format, and i think it has a lot of good things to say.

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Lesson 1: "White Man Painted Black"?

Lesson 1.5: "Hair for Thought"- how visualizing affects your writing

Lesson 2: “That One Hairstyle? RETIRE IT!” Black Hair is an Art (pt.1)

Lesson 2.1: Addendum to Hair pt 1

Lesson 2: "It Takes HOW LONG?" Black Hair is an Art (pt.2)

Application! Examples of Protective Hair Coverings

Application! Ice's Lazy Loc Wash Routine

Application! How to: Simplified Braid

Application! Daisy E's Simplified Hair Drawing

Lesson 3: "Defying the Default"- Skin Tones and the Presence of Black Characters

Application! What are Black fans looking for in Commissions?

Lesson 4: "Do Black People Blush?" Bringing brown complexions to life

Application! Humanæ- Resource for Skin Palettes!

Lesson 5: "The Same Place As the Music" Lighting & Color

Lesson 6: "Let's Have A Talk, First" Stereotypes, pt 1

Lesson 6: “Why’s she so rude?” (She’s Not)- Stereotypes, pt 2

Lesson 6: "Is He the Threat (Or Are You?)"- Stereotypes, pt 3

Application! How to Spot a Stereotype: An Example

Lesson 7: "That's the Black one!"- Imagery and "Black-Coded" Characters

Lesson 8: “Across cultures, darker people suffer most. Why?” Multiethnic and Multicultural Blackness

Lesson 9: “Romance Will Not Solve Racism”- Interracial/Biracial/Blended Black and White Relationships and Families

Application! "Not Black Enough"

Lesson 10: “The Ambiguously Brown Character™”- The Attachment to Eurocentric Beauty Standards

Lesson 11: “No, That’s Not ‘How Color Works’.” - Whitewashing

Lesson 12: “The bulging eyes and the twisted mouth” - Violence, Violent Imagery & Black Horror

Lesson 13: “It’s Giving” AAVE, and the Denied Yet Undeniable Impact of Black Culture

Lesson 14: “On Human Dignity.”  Blackness, Gender & Sexuality

Lesson 15: How To Guide Your Research

Lesson 16: "Make Your Peace With The Chaos..." Childhood While Black

Lesson 17: "D.N.A."- Blackness and Health/Medical Antiblackness

I had a nightmare last night.

I was a reporter.

I spent a lot of time thinking about The Rules, and wondering how things worked. Thank you for reading.

Part 3 coming soon.